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Good morning,

I am happy to be writing this to you this morning. I’ve missed writing, but I’m still putting myself together. 😊

Straight to my message.

One of my very close friend, lost someone like a sister to her during the week. I felt so bad for her, because instead of only properly mourning, what of most she felt was a bit of regret of how much time she never got to spend with this sister/friend and how much time she wasted on others who didn’t appreciate her or reciprocated her love and also even disrespected her along the way.

But I learnt a lesson earlier during the year to just literally keep away from them and love them from far. I remember then that it was such a hard thing to do, most of these people looked at me funny like I was crazy.

“LOVING FROM FAR IS NOT A CRIME”.”They started saying all sorts of things and making me feel worse when they noticed my decision of reducing my relationship with them. I thought to myself couldn’t they take a mirror and look at themselves to decipher if they are the reason I was behaving like that.

“I GUESS I WASN’T WORTH FIGHTING FOR”This morning as I was about to do my quite time. BDHM also did the quiet time topic on exactly my thoughts. So I thought it was the perfect time to let you know my thoughts on it and as usual once again he has spoken much better than I could ever explain myself.

As a woman I would have ranted and vented on and on and on 🙈🙈😂😂😂😂.

So read this little quiet time post

QUIET TIME BY BDHMPsalm 1:1Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor…sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

The world has two types of people: those who believe in you and those who have no confidence in you. Learn to turn away from people who despise you.

I can always tell when someone despises me at heart. Every leader should learn to detect the spirit of critical and hateful people (1 John 4:1). Rejection is a spiritual thing and can be discerned spiritually.

I once spoke to a doctor in the USA. I had always known that this fellow despised me. Though he never said much to me, I knew it in my spirit. Just like David, I turned away from him and “flowed” with those who believed in me. He confirmed this and said, “What you are saying is true. Somehow, in those days I didn’t like what you were doing. But now, I have come to appreciate your ministry.”

No one can flourish in an environment of spitefulness. In some churches, professionals are neither regarded nor respected as far as the ministry is concerned.

If you are a lawyer, doctor or accountant, the ministers may consider you incapable of ministry work. I advise such people to attend a church where they can be involved in ministry without being despised. Some full-time ministers simply do not recognize the role of lay people.

In some places, poor and uneducated people are despised.

It is important to turn away from an environment where you are despised. You can only flourish where people respect and love you. Continue reading “LESSON LEARNT”

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Good morning,

Straight to my letter to you today. I was in an evening service yesterday and we were listening to a message by BDHM and he was preaching about different forms of spirit of fears/disorders. MY goodness I knew I just had to tell you about it.

Below is the link to the message if you want to listen to it. He always does a better job at explaining these things. ⤵️⤵️

Spirit of Power, Love and Sound Mind Part 2 by BDHM

Scripture for the message is

2 Timothy 1 (Listen)

2 Timothy 1:7For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

So for those who haven’t googled today’s title yet to find out what on earth I’ll be talking about, here it is.

What is Gamophobia??? (According to google)

“Gamophobia is the fear of commitment, though it can also be the excessive, persistent, uncontrollable and irrational fear of marriage. It is derived from the Greek word Gamos which means marriage and phobos meaning fear.”

I have met a lot of people with all sorts of fears of marriage/commitment, such as…

A person is particularly scared of getting married, and I mean the idea of spending their whole life with a single person is daunting for them.

What causes Gamophobia???

It is typically looked at as only a man’s problem, especially because some find it hard to commit to one woman or even bring themselves to propose to their long term beloved. But I must point out, that a lot of women also suffer from it.

I mean a client was telling me the other day that a friend’s husband said he loves his wife but doesn’t understand why he can’t have turkey sometimes although he enjoys chicken.

You also find that these types of people, live with their partners, have children but never get married, because of the fear that marriage will curse the relationship or the other party will change and all sorts.

Some factors that causes it are personal insecurities (like being heart broken, not feeling adequate enough for their partners etc), financial status and other social factors that comes along with marriage.

Even if they do manage to get married, these thoughts and fears are still lingering around. It can develop into domestic violence, pushing the other partner away, false accusations and so on.

Gamophobia occurs sometimes when the person didn’t witness good marriages around them. So this has left a bad taste in their mouth.

In my research I read that these incidents can be caused by divorce of parents during childhood, abuse from parents, seeing one’s parents or other married couples fight and quarrel, a previous marriage failure, betrayal from partner or hearing about unsuccessful marriages extensively.

Treatment for Gamophobia

It can be treated with both therapy/counselling and medications. I will also add with a lot of prayer and spiritual counselling not just any counselling.

But like I always say, if you want to be healed you have to first admit and confess that you have a problem.

What I’m saying is, if you really want to overcome the fear of marriage/commitment, you desire/need to really be ready to overcome the fear, seek the right guidance from your senior ministers and take practical steps.

Let’s stop denying what is clear and right in front of us. We will be missing out on great things in life, that we are entitled to, that God has planned for us.

May our stubbornness and inability to seek for help not hinder us from our breakthrough.

Proverbs 29:1 “He who is often reproved, yet stiffens his neck, will suddenly be broken beyond healing.”

Everything that is a success in life takes a lot of work. So just like how you want to be successful in your job and personal life, you must be ready to put the same effort into your relationships/marriage.

Marriage is an unending school, it is like entering into an unknown territory. There is no manual.

That is why we must have faith and by the grace of God, I know you can overcome this fear, as long as you are willing to be healed from the spirit of Gamophobia. Amen.

Psalms 34:17

The righteous cry, and the LORD heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles.”

Be blessed 😇🙏😘

Yours always,


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Fear Controls You

Good morning,

I’m glad to be writing to you today. As you know I have been very lazy writing lately.

I am allowing my personal life to take centre stage right now. I guess it’s just a season. I know when I do have something important that God has laid in my heart for you, you will hear from me 😊.

But I just needed to write today. I woke up with this thought about fear.

You know fear is one of the things that stops us from progressing.

Firstly what does the dictionary mean by the word “FEAR”

* An unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm.

A feeling of anxiety concerning the outcome of something or the safety of someone. The likelihood of something unwelcome happening. A mixed feeling of dread and reverence, ‘like the love and fear of God’

BDHM once said


When I heard this quote that “fear comes by hearing”, it made perfect sense.

Fear doesn’t just come upon you, it starts with a thought developing or that voice inside you giving you negative thoughts or like someone saying something like,….

…You are not beautiful enough

…You haven’t achieved much in life

…Why aren’t you married yet?

…Don’t you think that dress looks tacky

…To make it in this industry it is hard

…As for me I don’t think it is possible

You see all these types of statements drives fear and doubts into us and causes us not to progress.

I mean who cares right! Gods timing and all, God knows best.

I used to be a victim of this, but glory to God, during my early days as a Christian, God gave me this scripture and whenever I feel like I am developing any form of fear or anxiety I just repeat this scripture to myself till I feel better.

2 Timothy 1:7, For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

By the way if you didn’t know, this is my favourite scripture of all time.

I don’t have much to say than let us be careful of the types people we listen to, whom we allow to have a say or influence our thoughts and decisions. They can influence our thoughts and invite or awaken demons like fear inside us.

Be weary 🤔🤔 of people making passing comments. Focus on the word of God and His promises, because He’s got you.

Be blessed and till next time, yours always…😊


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Good morning,

It has been a long time since I have written to you. I am so sorry for those who are always looking forward to my epistles.

I am just getting used to my new life.

There is a lot going on and I’m learning to adapt, I’m learning to accept, I’m learning to love this new chapter of my life.

I’m sure you’re wondering what is going on??? In due time don’t worry I will share.

But for now I am just managing to get used to it. But I’m still here, I’m alive and kicking and I believe same with you all.

So the Lord put it in my heart the other day that I gave a job and you’re not doing a good job of it.

I told the Lord please help me plan better because I just feel so overwhelmed right now and I’m still working it out.

As usual he said all you had to do was ask. Remember I cannot come in or else you give me permission.

He reminded me of His words…

John 15:16

“You did not choose Me but I chose you, and appointed you that you would go and bear fruit, and that your fruit would remain, so that whatever you ask of the Father in My name He may give to you.


Matthew 7:7

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

So I might be MIA occasionally, but I will do my best to always come back to you all.

I just wish there was a better medium to do this without having to send a link. Oh well! till I find another medium I’ll still keep on using this one.

I’m taking another approach towards my epistle to you. So you might find a much personal approach will resonate as time goes by.

And I believe according to this scripture…

2 Corinthians 12:8-9

Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

I feel reassured that indeed he His with us all. So anyone out there feeling overwhelmed about their current situation, please be encouraged that God is with you and he’ll never leave nor forsake you.

Continue to stay tuned and God bless you as you read and share.

Lots of love always. 😇😘🙏


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I’m in a season where I can’t handle distractions

Good morning,

I have been so naughty this week I haven’t even written once. I just have a very important project I am doing and I had to give all my attention.

So there is a topic I have always wanted to talk about. I have struggled to write about it because I nearly sound wrong. Also when I have the discussions with people or try to advice them about this topic I can’t seem to get my words write without hurting someone’s feelings, (I’m still growing). Because as you know I keep it real. 

So I saw this video and I thought it is a perfect 3.58mins of what I want to share today. 

Please watch ⤵️⤵️

Headwinds by Sarah Jakes-Robert

Hope you were blessed. 

Remember to keep it real and stop worrying about what people think! 😇🙏😘

Yours always…This is 


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Pray For The Other Woman

God morning,

Just a quick one today. My pastor was preaching last night and when he said this statement, I thought of you all.
He says: “Aren’t you tired of praying for yourself and not getting any results?” 

“Remember Job prayed for his friends and the Lord blessed him”. 

Jobs 42:1-17

10 And the Lord turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends: also the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before.

We are so concerned about ourselves, what we want God to do for us. But how many times have we gotten up and prayed and fasted on a friends behalf, a friend,…

Who is jobless

Who isn’t married

Who desires to have a child

Who is not saved

Who is struggling financially 

Who is having marital issues

Who is having emotional and physiological issues

Who is struggling to pray 

Who is making the wrong decisions in life, and so on 

I do this occasional (fast and pray for a friend or other that cross my mind), without them knowing. 

Let us rise up together and really start practising what a true Titus woman is all about. 

Philippians 2:3-4, Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.

Be blessed as you intercede for the other woman. Make it a challenge today and start praying for your friends.  😇🙏😘. 

As always, this is…


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Multitude Of Counsel.

Good morning,


I hope I don’t sound like I am ranting to you all this morning. 😊.

So sometime recently I posted as usual and a friend reposted it and someone else responded saying they didn’t understand what my post was about and also stated that why do people now adays think they can just take to social media and start talking.

Usually I would have been so upset by it and you know really feel so down about it. 

So I paused and asked myself this question. WHY DID YOU START THIS BLOG???

It definitely was not my own doing, because I tell you it takes great effort to do this blog and I’m not just doing it because I’m jobless. I think I’m quite a busy person to add more problems to my problems. I don’t make any money from this blog and I’m not doing it to become known, (if in the furture it happens then all glory to God).

As I was complaining to God about the whole thing, the Holy Spirit put it in my heart, that in the multitude of great counsel there is wisdom. He also reminded me that the day everyone likes you, then you are definitely not in my will.

Proverbs 11:14, Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety.

You see there are too many people on this earth, they can never be enough messengers. Mr A might never here Messenger A’s teaching but will by the grace of God find Messenger B’s teaching, which I’ll bring healing and wisdom to solve their problems. 

Then in that moment I knew and was more confident in what I am doing on this blog. I have by the grace of God and the leading of the Holy Spirit helped so many and still doing so and I’m going to keep on doing so.

At the end of the day. The word of God is meant to set us free and bring healing unto us.

Psalm 107:20 He sent his word, and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions.

But you see not everyone who is in a high position, like a famous pastors wife, preacher, motivational speaker and so on, qualifies to advice. I believe the wisdom of God and experiences of life qualifies anyone to shed their light on a matter, and we can agree to disagree.

I know that people would rather listen to a big name like Oprah Winfrey and other big people because they are famous and look like they are filled with wisdom. 

Like I always tell you all “I DONT KNOW ANYTHING I AM JUST BEING LED AS I WRITE”.  But then I was recently in a meeting and one of our bishops said this statement and I was like wow I must address this issue.

He said: “Just because she is A pastor’s wife doesn’t mean she is spiritual and qualifies to lead the women”.

He went on to say “She might be a pastor’s choice, but not God’s choice to then qualify to be the leader of the women”.’ 

“Because maybe when the pastor chose her, they weren’t even born again. 
She should prove over time that she qualifies to advices not just because she’s the pastors wife”.

I just want to use today’s post to encourage anybody out there, if you know you are called, don’t let the so-called bigger people and all the people around you bring you down. If you are not called time will tell.

Remember this scripture…

Luke 4:18,The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised,

If you believe you are called to do whatever you are doing, stay true, strong and stay firm. Believe in your God who has chosen you and sooner or later your works will show.

Matthew 5:16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. 

Bishop Dag said in one of his daily quiet times…

“Spiritual, emotional and psychological problems are the most difficult to solve. Doctors often struggle with these problems to no avail. The diagnosis and treatment of spiritual, emotional and psychological problems are the most difficult areas of medicine. But God has a solution. The solution is in His Word.

A daily dose of God’s powerful Word will bring healing to every inner wound. How was Jesus going to heal the broken-hearted? Through the Word of God! The Word of God has a way of healing us of our pain and wounds. God will touch you where it hurts if you will allow Him. He will heal you of every situation in your life.

God also heals our bodies. The Bible says that His words are life and health to the flesh (Proverbs 4:22). The flesh means the physical body . I would like to quote to you a very interesting article I read in Reader’s Digest:

“The notion that religious faith can promote physical wellbeing is not new. Most of us have heard of cases in which someone, seemingly by sheer faith and will, has miraculously recovered from a terminal illness or survived far longer than doctors thought possible. What is new is that such rewards of religion are becoming the stuff of science.”
It may sound difficult to believe, but God’s Word actually brings healing
to our physical bodies”.

Above all one of the great commands we were given in the bible as women was in…

Titus 2:3-5, which is the foundation on which this blog was built. So in that sense I am not apologetic for writing and I will keep doing so by the power invested in me by God through His Son Jesus Christ.

We need more people to rise up and write. Just like the world has so many people blogging about fashion, sex, relationships and so on. Let us also write with the influence of God like in the bible days to bring light, wisdom and healing to God’s people.

Be Encouraged. Let us keep spreading the word and thank God for all the great women and men sharing their wisdom. God will do the rest. 😇🙏😘

Blessings and as always this is…