I came across a clip recently about a man finding comfort in the arms of his maid. The clip portrayed his wife always working, doesn’t clean or cook nor have regular sex with her husband. She instructed the maid to take good care of her husband, and attend to his every need, she kept emphasising on his every need part.
Now this lady being very naive, took it literally and when the husband made a pass at her, she concluded it was part of her duties as her boss did say “every need“.
Well all jokes apart………….Men like service, they love attention and demand a lot of care. Am average man likes a woman that massages his ego. A woman that shows respect and is submissive.
When we read the account of Vashti, she didn’t play her role well and she was replaced.
Esther 1:10-12, 10 On the seventh day, when King Xerxes was in high spirits from wine, he commanded the seven eunuchs who served him—Mehuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, Abagtha, Zethar and Karkas— 11 to bring before him Queen Vashti, wearing her royal crown, in order to display her beauty to the people and nobles, for she was lovely to look at. 12 But when the attendants delivered the king’s command, Queen Vashti refused to come. Then the king became furious and burned with anger.
Esther 1:19, 19 “Therefore, if it pleases the king, let him issue a royal decree and let it be written in the laws of Persia and Media, which cannot be repealed, that Vashti is never again to enter the presence of King Xerxes. Also let the king give her royal position to someone else who is better than she.
Esther on the other hand knew how to play the role very well. She was very submissive and used a lot of wisdom to dwell with her man, a king at that.
You see when an average man cheats and cheats but never leaves home, I think it is because deep down in his heart he still loves his wife, but because he isn’t satisfied at home, he looks elsewhere and probably wishes it was his wife he was with each time.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not condoning nor making excuses for men. I believe a trully God fearing man should refrain from such sin no matter his situation at home and get counselling.
Let us not ruin own own home with our own hands. Let us play our roles with great wisdom and not manipulation. Let us be fortified with prayer constantly for a God to shield our homes from strange women.
A great woman…, she rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And portions to her maidens.
Don’t send another friend, mother or sister to do your duties. If you are going to be away for some time, cook and portion them into the fridge or freezer. If you have to get a maid, get one that leaves on the same day if possible. Don’t let the help attend to your husbands personal needs.
Yours always😘🙏😇, this is…