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Why Not Him??? 🤷‍♀️

Good morning,

I am sorry I haven’t written to you this week. Work has been overwhelming (glory be to God). 

So today I want to share a conversation I had recently with a certain lady. 

Me: why won’t you considered this brother, I think you’ll work. Don’t you agree?

Lady: No I am not interested. 

Me: But you have great chemistry ☺️😊 WHY NOT HIM???

Lady: 😒 How can you be with someone who brings out the worst in you. 

Me: 😱😨😳😲😧 WOW true talk. 

In that moment it hit me. She was being wise and had paid good attention to have know this fact. 

Having good chemistry doesn’t always mean it will work. These two banter a lot and the guy really likes her. But when she made this statement I looked back into so many other relationships, that I know either the guy or the lady had brought out the worst in the other. 

I guess this is another thing you have to add to the list of things to look out for in your choice of spouse. 

Does this person encourage you to be a better man or woman. Are they like unfortunately our dear mother Eve, who led Adam into making a bad decision in also eating of the fruits.

Gen 3:6, And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.

Or like a Abigail who’s husband Nabal nearly cost them their lives. Thank God she  didn’t listen to his foolish ways and turned the situation around and pleaded for David’s mercies. Well Nabal still lost his life in the process. 

Read full story: 1 Samuel 25

One of the things I always thank God for in my husband is, no matter how unhappy I am with someone, my husband will never stop talking to them. He will tell me that is between me and the person and I should work it out and vice versa.

I know a few couple whom whereby when one is not talking or in a misunderstanding with someone, then the other also carries up the malice cross and follows the wife or husband to stop taking to the person. 

In a relationship, you must be able to correct each other and set each other straight and not encourage bad behaviour. 

You must avoid letting the other half develop certain traits like becoming defensive or justifying themselves all the time. Even things like the person becoming timid and unable to express themselves out of trying to remain in love. 

All these things are unhealthy in a long run for the relationship.

This doesn’t only go for relationships. As I was writing it occurred to me, that they are some friendships you need to let go of.  This is because the person is not bringing out the best in you. They are not fruitful in the relationship. They bring you down and make you feel insecure and like you have to match up to them all the time.

A good friend must be able to influence you for greater things and want to see you succeed as much as themselves. They must be genuinely concerned about your well being.

Once again choose wisely and don’t let CHEMISTRY fool you. Test the spirit behind the potential spouse. Don’t just look at what it looks like on the surface. Look deeper!

Be blessed and as always, this is 

#myepistletoyou…

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My Source. 

Good morning,

The Lord is good, all the time and all the time, my God is sooooooo good.

Well straight to what I want to talk to you about today… Last weekend as I was in a conversation with some people, as we shared what we get up to in our private lives. I mention church and one of the ladies asked

“WHY DO I NEED TO GO TO CHURCH ALL THE TIME”

I was tempted to just quote these two  scriptures

Hebrew 10:25 Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.

Psalm 133 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!

But then I held my tongue and thought to myself, Marian why did you need the church. 

  1. The church is my source of life
  2. My source of inspiration 
  3. My source of wisdom 
  4. I needed the church for comfort
  5. To help me live a better and Holy life
  6. To find people of equal believes 
  7. To gain knowledge from the brethren 
  8. The church helped counsel me on my problems as much as they can. 
  9. If we can go to life coaches, why can’t we go to church where they will even help us tunr our hearts to God.
  10. The church gave me a reason to believe in myself that I can also work for God.

Bishop Dag Heward Mills said..,

Spiritual, emotional and psychological problems are the most difficult to solve. Doctors often struggle with these problems to no avail. The diagnosis and treatment of spiritual, emotional and psychological problems are the most difficult areas of medicine. But God has a solution. The solution is in His Word.
A daily dose of God’s powerful Word will bring healing to every inner wound. How was Jesus going to heal the broken-hearted? Through the Word of God! The Word of God has a way of healing us of our pain and wounds. God will touch you where it hurts if you will allow Him. He will heal you of every situation in your life.
God also heals our bodies. The Bible says that His words are life and health to the flesh (Proverbs 4:22). The flesh means the physical body . I would like to quote to you a very interesting article I read in Reader’s Digest:
“The notion that religious faith can promote physical wellbeing is not new. Most of us have heard of cases in which someone, seemingly by sheer faith and will, has miraculously recovered from a terminal illness or survived far longer than doctors thought possible. What is new is that such rewards of religion are becoming the stuff of science.”
It may sound difficult to believe, but God’s Word actually brings healing to our physical bodies.

Where else will you hear great counselling like that???🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

If it was up to me, churches won’t exist because I don’t think people use church for the right reasons. If I wasn’t in church I wouldn’t be married today. 

Even if I was, I wouldn’t have learnt how to be as submissive and patient as I am trying to be. I wouldn’t have met men and women of God who will counsel me and lead me on the right path. 

We do need the church, I read this quote 

As believers, church attendance is of high importance. It is a place we can all come together to worship, be encouraged, and learn from God’s words for spiritual growth.

We can all say that we will do church at home, but honestly how many times do you get up and pray or read the bible, or do deep bible study. When more people are around the environment and atmosphere of prayer is different, it encourages. 

Please people try and ignore all the other things that happens in church, it is normal for when a lot of people of different nature, background and upbringing to have different views.

Even in a normal household, siblings fight. Why can’t we forgive our Christian siblings and believe that we are all in church to better ourselves. If you set a good example and dwell with people against all odds, others will one day come to the same understanding.

We together make the church. The church building is just a place that we go to fellowship. A place we go to rejuvenate. I love this picture.


Let us bring hope to the people and let God use us to change the hearts of the people and draw them closer to him.

Matthew 5:16, Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

Be blessed always. This is…

#myepistletoyou

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Get Moving 

Good morning,

As I woke up slightly disheartened from something I read that nearly sown a seed of doubt in my heart, I pondered and asked God to give me a word. He gave me this scripture Romans 10:10-11. So I did my quiet time on this scripture and I am uplifted and I am going to keep on moving. Praise Jesus.

I’ll share the scripture and also a read from yesterday by Bishop Dag with you.

Be blessed!

QUIET TIME SCRIPTURE

Romans 10:10-11

Prayer points 

  • Believe in God that he will never fail.
  • Believe that he has called me
  • The Lord will not put me to shame. 
  • I believe in my heart that I am righteous
  • I believe and confess I have salvation.

THANK YOU JESUS!!!

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GET MOVING

 by Dag Heward-Mills 

 READ: John 11:28-45

 

Luke 14:21,…Go out quickly…and bring in hither the poor, and the maimed, and the halt, and the blind.  

Most important things are not urgent. Important things are often unattractive and uninviting. It is difficult to be faithful with what God considers important.

For instance, prayer without ceasing is one of the most important things for us to do (1 Thessalonians 5:17). Yet, we lack a sense of urgency when it comes to prayer. In times of trouble, you often cannot have faith. While you are in the trouble, you will feel like calling on God but fear and anxiety will grip your heart. It is almost impossible to pray under those circumstances. Then you will realize how important it was for you to have prayed.

 Have you ever wondered why Jesus did not pray when He was arrested? It is because He had finished praying before the crisis began.

To preach the Gospel and to win the lost is another very important instruction (Matthew 28:19, 20). But often there is no sense of urgency to fulfil that command. The fact that you don’t feel any pressure does not mean that it is not important. Pressure does not always signify the importance of a command. It is a great thing to obey the Lord even when we are not under pressure to do so.

It takes greater faithfulness and diligence to perform duties that do not appear urgent or important.

Just to add my two pence……. like I always tell you guys, I am not perfect neither do I know it all. I am just sharing how I am dealing with things or how others have. 

Start praying now for your future, start praying now for your husband, wife children, ministry, career. We can’t just sit there and wallow in self pity. Let’s get moving on sowing these seeds of prayer and tell everything you are struggling with to also “GET MOVING”

  • Get moving  spiritual attacks
  • Get moving division
  • Get moving separation
  • Get moving unwanted spirits
  • Get moving financial decline.
  • Get moving anxiety
  • Get moving doubt
  • Get moving sicknesses
  • Get moving sin
  • Get moving O’ Mountain
  • Get moving spirit of fear 
  • Get moving accusers
  • Get moving haters

Etc..

We have to “GET MOVING” and believe that our faith can move mountains. 


Yours always, this is…

#myepistletoyou…

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The Available Becomes The Wanted 

Good morning,

I came across a clip recently about a man finding comfort in the arms of his maid. The clip portrayed his wife always working, doesn’t clean or cook nor have regular sex with her husband. She instructed the maid to take good care of her husband, and attend to his every need, she kept emphasising on his every need part. 

Now this lady being very naive, took it literally and when the husband made a pass at her, she concluded it was part of her duties as her boss did say “every need“. 

Well all jokes apart………….Men like service, they love attention and demand a lot of care. Am average man likes a woman that massages his ego. A woman that shows respect and is submissive.

When we read the account of Vashti, she didn’t play her role well and she was replaced. 

Esther 1:10-12, 10 On the seventh day, when King Xerxes was in high spirits from wine, he commanded the seven eunuchs who served him—Mehuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, Abagtha, Zethar and Karkas— 11 to bring before him Queen Vashti, wearing her royal crown, in order to display her beauty to the people and nobles, for she was lovely to look at. 12 But when the attendants delivered the king’s command, Queen Vashti refused to come. Then the king became furious and burned with anger.

Esther 1:19, 19 “Therefore, if it pleases the king, let him issue a royal decree and let it be written in the laws of Persia and Media, which cannot be repealed, that Vashti is never again to enter the presence of King Xerxes. Also let the king give her royal position to someone else who is better than she.

Esther on the other hand knew how to play the role very well. She was very submissive and used a lot of wisdom to dwell with her man, a king at that. 

You see when an average man cheats and cheats but never leaves home, I think it is because deep down in his heart he still loves his wife, but because he isn’t satisfied at home, he looks elsewhere and probably wishes it was his wife he was with each time.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not condoning nor making excuses for men. I believe a trully God fearing man should refrain from such sin no matter his situation at home and get counselling.

Let us not ruin our own home with our own hands. Let us play our roles with great wisdom and not manipulation. Let us be fortified with prayer constantly for God to shield our homes from strange women.

A great woman…, she rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And portions to her maidens.

Proverbs 31:15,

Don’t send another friend, mother or sister to do your duties. If you are going to be away for some time, cook and portion them  into the fridge or freezer. If you have to get a maid, get one that leaves on the same day if possible. Don’t let the help attend to your husbands personal needs.


Because remember ladies “When the wanted is not available the available will become the wanted”.

Yours always😘🙏😇, this is…

#myepistletoyou…

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Nothing else in common 🤷‍♀️💔🤷‍♂️

Good morning,

I believe you had a great weekend and I thank God for keeping you. 

“The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread”. ~Mother Teresa


I hear this statement all the time “we no longer have anything in common”. 

READ THIS!⤵️

WIFE:- I have been with my husband for about 13 years now and we have a decent relationship but there is no passion, affection, or excitement. We just have nothing in common anymore and live mostly like roomates.

HUSBAND:- After hearing my wife say for the past 12 years that she feels like we’re roommates. I don’t play video games, I’m active with my kids, I try to be as sensitive to my wife’s needs as I possibly know how, but I keep “coming up short!?” I’m not trying to paint myself as a noble saint–I know I’m not perfect. I am just genuinely trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong (for 12 years) that is upsetting her!? Whenever I try to ask her, she tells that I just don’t get it and then ends the conversation. I’m fishing here for any kind of any answer, because it feels like any minute the wheels are going to come flying off our marriage and I won’t have a clue as to what happened or how to resolve it!? I love her, I want to be with her, I’m doing everything I know to do, but like I said, I just keep coming up short!?

Firstly I find it the most absurd comment people make when they want out of their marriage. You didn’t have anything in common in the first place. Apart from that, as long as there is real love, when there is a bend in the marriage, the passion, affection, or excitement, can always be revived.

So I asked a few people who had similar issues and this is what I found, that they had married for the wrong reasons in the first place. When I asked why did you get married?, these where their reason,

1.) I really liked him, but mostly for financial stability

2.) I was getting older, but yes I loved him too

3.) He was very handsome and I fell in love 

4.) I was ready to start having children and we were ok at the time.

And so on…

This past weekend a friend had come to work with me on a wedding. During the time it randomly dropped into my heart and I said to her “aren’t you glad we married for love”. She said “Yes”. We may not have what we know some of our friends have, but we can see they didn’t marry for genuine love. 

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

 I realised a lot of marriages fall out of love because they married for the wrong reasons. They didn’t consider what the will of God was in choosing a spouse. They didn’t pray, they went only on emotions and feelings. 

Frankly you were not in love in the first place and that is why the love never grew. Real love grows and people enjoy each other more and more as time goes by. The first mistake is not waiting on God for the right person, which then leaves you with the wrong person or frankly choosing the bad apples.

Psalm 27, Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.

Keep God at the centre always. Because the nearer you are the better your marriage and the further you are the more the marriage weakens. 


Have a great week ahead and remember “Love is fruitful and is meant to grow when sown on a good ground and not wither away like it was sown on a stony ground”. Please choose wisely!

Yours always, this is…

#myepistletoyou

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Favour

Good morning,

I read this by Bishop Dag Heward Mills, this morning and decided to share it with you. It totally ministered to me and I totally needed it.

We had a fasting and prayer recently and we prayed for favour. I started to see the hands of the Lord moving. So this message this morning is a confirmation.  I pray it blesses and encourages you also. 


REMEMBER TO ASK FOR FAVOUR WHEN PRAYING!

FAVOUR

by Dag Heward-Mills

READ: Genesis 29:15-31

 

Psalm 84:11, For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly

  

My dear friend, have you ever watched a soccer match without knowing who was really playing? As you watched for a while, you began to notice the side that was losing. Most of the time, we tend to instinctively support the losing team. As they say, “People support the underdogs.”
That support you have for the underdogs is a God-given instinct to support the disadvantaged.
Today, if you are in a disadvantaged situation, be it known unto you that God is on your side. The Lord is helping you right now! It may seem as though you are disfavoured, but that is what provokes God.
The Bible says very clearly that when God saw that Leah was not liked, He compensated for it by showing divine favour.

Genesis 29:31, And when the Lord saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren

God opened the womb of Leah and gave her children. Suddenly, Leah was a favoured person. She was the only one who could bring children into the family.
Dear brother or sister, perhaps you consider yourself to be in a disdvantaged position. That is the reason why Jesus is giving you extra favour. He is going to change your misfortunes. You don’t have to be discouraged. Today, remember these words: the Lord’s favour is upon your life!!

I PRAY THAT THE GOOD LORD WILL POUR OUT HIS UNMERITED FAVOUR UPON YOU AND IN EVERYTHING YOU DO IN JESUS NAME.


This Is Our God by Hillsong

Be blessed always, 😇🙏😘 and this is…

#myepistletoyou

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Invitation To The Wrong Guest ✉️📬

Good morning,

Great to be back and God bless all who messaged to welcome me back. May God honour and remember you also in Jesus name. Amen. 


Straight to me point this morning. There was a certain lady, she used to watch porn all the time and even in marriage. She had been married for many many years and couldn’t have a child.

She had gone through all the checks and the doctors said all was well and healthy between herself and her husband. 

Then one day it was revealed to her that she should stop watching porn. She did by stopping to watchnporn, prayed and prayed for God’s mercy and forgiveness, and almost immediately shortly after, she conceived a child.

The Holy Spirit brought it to her attention, that while she was watching porn, it had blocked God’s spiritual access to making her fruitful. 

I know of another couple whom used to watch porn together and this ended up causing infidelity in their marriage also.

We want to be fruitful, but we are walking in darkness. Giving free invitations to demons. Then these demons will also go and invite their other friends. 

Matthew 12:45, Then goeth he, and taketh with himself seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter in and dwell there: and the last state of that man is worse than the first. Even so shall it be also unto this wicked generation.

God cannot use us or help us to bear fruits when we are not clean, we have to be pure.

It is really important to be cautious of the things we digest, spiritually, physically, emotionally, the things we watch and listen to. 

It is clear that what we take in is what we produce.

BE FREE FROM UNWANTED VISITORS. MAY THE ANGELS VISIT YOU LIKE THEY VISITED MARY BECAUSE GOD HAD FAVOURED HER.

Luke 1:28, And the angel came in unto her, and said, Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women.

Dear brethren be careful of what you unknowingly invite into your life. Be prayerful and abiding in the word of the Lord.

Receive the visitation of the Holy Spirit. Be blessed and highly favoured in Jesus name. Amen!


Yours truly and always, this is…

#myepistletoyou