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Nothing else in common 🤷‍♀️💔🤷‍♂️

Good morning,

I believe you had a great weekend and I thank God for keeping you. 

“The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread”. ~Mother Teresa

I hear this statement all the time “we no longer have anything in common”. 


WIFE:- I have been with my husband for about 13 years now and we have a decent relationship but there is no passion, affection, or excitement. We just have nothing in common anymore and live mostly like roomates.

HUSBAND:- After hearing my wife say for the past 12 years that she feels like we’re roommates. I don’t play video games, I’m active with my kids, I try to be as sensitive to my wife’s needs as I possibly know how, but I keep “coming up short!?” I’m not trying to paint myself as a noble saint–I know I’m not perfect. I am just genuinely trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong (for 12 years) that is upsetting her!? Whenever I try to ask her, she tells that I just don’t get it and then ends the conversation. I’m fishing here for any kind of any answer, because it feels like any minute the wheels are going to come flying off our marriage and I won’t have a clue as to what happened or how to resolve it!? I love her, I want to be with her, I’m doing everything I know to do, but like I said, I just keep coming up short!?

Firstly I find it the most absurd comment people make when they want out of their marriage. You didn’t have anything in common in the first place. Apart from that, as long as there is real love, when there is a bend in the marriage, the passion, affection, or excitement, can always be revived.

So I asked a few people who had similar issues and this is what I found, that they had married for the wrong reasons in the first place. When I asked why did you get married?, these where their reason,

1.) I really liked him, but mostly for financial stability

2.) I was getting older, but yes I loved him too

3.) He was very handsome and I fell in love 

4.) I was ready to start having children and we were ok at the time.

And so on…

This past weekend a friend had come to work with me on a wedding. During the time it randomly dropped into my heart and I said to her “aren’t you glad we married for love”. She said “Yes”. We may not have what we know some of our friends have, but we can see they didn’t marry for genuine love. 

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

 I realised a lot of marriages fall out of love because they married for the wrong reasons. They didn’t consider what the will of God was in choosing a spouse. They didn’t pray, they went only on emotions and feelings. 

Frankly you were not in love in the first place and that is why the love never grew. Real love grows and people enjoy each other more and more as time goes by. The first mistake is not waiting on God for the right person, which then leaves you with the wrong person or frankly choosing the bad apples.

Psalm 27, Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.

Keep God at the centre always. Because the nearer you are the better your marriage and the further you are the more the marriage weakens. 

Have a great week ahead and remember “Love is fruitful and is meant to grow when sown on a good ground and not wither away like it was sown on a stony ground”. Please choose wisely!

Yours always, this is…


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All You Need!

Good morning,

It’s been too long, I have truly missed writing to you. But I needed the time off and now I get why. I wouldn’t bore you with  the detail until God wants me to talk about it to encourage someone one day.


2 Peter 1:3, God has granted to us everything we need for life and godliness through knowing Christ and trusting in His all-sufficient promises.

I have tried to start writing now for the past one week and kept feeling unready. So as I started to write this at exactly 4:10am this morning, while trying to pray and fall back asleep, I was thinking of all the young ladies in my life. I am sure as they read this, they would wonder whom am talking about. But you see I am talking to you all.

You see me as a role model because I give good advice, I sound wise and I come across collected and in charge by Gods grace of my life. But you see it didn’t happen overnight. I decided I truly wanted a change. I mean a complete change.

I was in my second year of uni when I was dating a young man with intentions of marriage. He became my worst nightmare. Another story for another day. But during this time I was looking for my next boyfriend, whom will make me feel better, a comforter, for someone to love me, for someone to want me.

But you see the Holy Spirit is the best comforter. 

John 14:26 – But the Comforter, [which is] the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.

Then I heard a voice say “I AM ALL YOU NEED”. I asked all I need? In that same instant the Holy Spirit made me realise, that Jesus is all I needed. Filled my heart with so much love, that I wept so hard and surrender my life to Him. He expressed to me that no man nor boyfriend could ever fill the void I was feeling.

So the change began by me….,

1.) I stopped drinking

2.) I stopped partying

3.) I stop wearing provocative clothing

4.) I stopped posing in pictures try to portray sexiness. 

5.) I stopped listening to worldly music 

6.) I learnt how to fall in love with God.

7.) I learnt to love myself 

And so on… and this is why you can look up to me as someone who’s got it all together. But what you don’t know is I am still constantly working on myself. As they say “Rome wasn’t built in a day”.

I have realised that I counsel you all every time but I sometimes don’t see the actual change that will better you for the good.

As I look through some picture post some had posted, I realised how can you flee from sexual lost, when your selfies looks like you are selling yourself as a sexual product. SOME OF, IF NOT ALL OF THE POSES ARE TOO EROTIC. I know we are in the days of people liking your sexy selfies. I will not be liking anyone of those pictures just to let you know. But I love you, and just trying to show you something.


Beauty is vain. 

Proverbs 31:30, Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

We say we want to get married, but what kind of man are we attracting with those poses. What kind of message are we sending to our potential husbands. 
There is a saying in my language “Don’t make a boyfriend your husband and don’t mistakenly make a potential husband a boyfriend”. 

You keep falling back into those insecurities, loneliness, feeling of not being worthy because true change hasn’t come.

When you know your true worth in Christ, NO MAN WILL MAKE YOU FEEL UNWANTED. Because you will already know that you are God’s own special creation and you are made for greater things.

Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

This is just to let you know I AM BACK! Please feel free to ask me to remove you from the broadcast. I am here for those who need me. God bless you and my love always. 😇🙏😘

All I Need by Hillsong


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#Natural v #Supernatural

Good morning. 

Another very important and powerful message I read this morning by BDHM. I need to pass it on for the spiritual minded or those interested in spiritual things.

by Dag Heward-Mills

READ: 1 Samuel 3:1-11,

And the child Samuel ministered unto the Lord before Eli. And the word of the Lord was precious in those days; there was no open vision. And it came to pass at that time, when Eli was lying down in his place, and his eyes began to wax dim so that he could not see, and ere the lamp of God went out in the temple of the Lord where the ark of God was, and Samuel was lying down to sleep, that the Lord called Samuel; and he answered, “Here am I.”

And he ran unto Eli and said, “Here am I, for thou called me.” And he said, “I called not; lie down again.” And he went and lay down. And the Lord called yet again, “Samuel.” And Samuel arose and went to Eli and said, “Here am I, for thou didst call me.” And he answered, “I called not, my son; lie down again.” Now Samuel did not yet know the Lord, neither was the word of the Lord yet revealed unto him.

And the Lord called Samuel again the third time. And he arose and went to Eli and said, “Here am I, for thou didst call me.” And Eli perceived that the Lord had called the child. Therefore Eli said unto Samuel, “Go, lie down; and it shall be, if He call thee, that thou shalt say, ‘Speak, Lord, for Thy servant heareth.’” So Samuel went and lay down in his place.

And the Lord came and stood, and called as at other times, “Samuel, Samuel.” Then Samuel answered, “Speak, for Thy servant heareth.” And the Lord said to Samuel, “Behold, I will do a thing in Israel at which both the ears of every one who heareth it shall tingle.


The supernatural is often mistaken for the natural. Because of that, the supernatural passes us by and we do not even realize it. Consider the call of the prophet Samuel.

One night as he slept, he heard a voice, which sounded so much like that of his senior pastor, Eli. Samuel heard this voice thrice and thought each time that it was a human voice. Could it be that the supernatural voice of God is so similar to the natural voice of man? It was the experienced prophet, Eli, who guided Samuel to receive the supernatural.

Some of the thoughts that flash through your mind are from God. They are the voice of God ministering direction to you. Jesus made it clear that the Holy Spirit would minister to Christians through their minds.

John 14:26,…the Holy Ghost… shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance…

The above scripture (John 14:26) explains that the Holy Spirit brings things to your mind. However, if your heart (thoughts and feelings) has become fat, stupid, dull and inattentive, you will never know when the Holy Spirit speaks to your mind. You will not know the difference between your own thoughts and those from the Holy Spirit.
Learn something right here! The supernatural is not always sensational, dramatic or spectacular. My experience with the supernatural is that God uses my organs of perception: of feeling, thinking, seeing and hearing. He will do the same for you. It may not be spectacular or thrilling, but it certainly is supernatural.

What a blessing and powerful revelation

Be blessed as you enter deeper into the understanding of supernatural and spiritual things. Amen 😇🙏😊


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Good morning.

I’m just going to leave this right here. 


by Dag Heward-Mills

READ: 1 John 3:11-18

For this is the message that ye heard from the beginning: that we should love one another. Be not as Cain, who was of that wicked one and slew his brother. And why did he slay him? Because his own works were evil, and his brother’s righteous.

Marvel not, my brethren, if the world hate you. We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love the brethren. He that loveth not his brother abideth in death.

Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer, and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him. Hereby we perceive the love of God: because He laid down His life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.

But whoso hath this world’s goods and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up the compassion of his heart from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him? My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue, but in deed and in truth.

A daughter of destiny will not quickly forget where she came from. She is prepared to help her father. Daughter, help your fathers in the natural! Daughter, help your spiritual father! Remember him and remember all that he has done for you. Don’t forget what he has done for you. Perhaps, you will never know the price he paid to care for you.
I am sometimes amazed that people, who have lived with others and at the expense of relatives all their lives, would not like to help anyone in later years. They close the doors to other needy people. They forget what someone did for them.
A virtuous woman has a kind heart. She is generous and helps many people, even those who do not deserve it (Proverbs 31:20). Perhaps you are the wife of some important personality today. Perhaps you are living in a rich western nation. Nothing happens by chance. Perhaps you are occupying a position in which you can employ many Christians. Please note that it is for a reason.
God is the one who established you wherever you are. He will come knocking at your door to ask you for your help. Will you help the cause of the Gospel when it is your turn to do so, or will you find an excuse?

Hebrews 13:16, But to do good and to communicate forget not: for with such sacrifices God is well pleased.

Have a blessed weekend and enjoy one of my favourite songs. 😘🙏😇

Who Am I by Casting Crowns


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Good morning. 

Just a quick one this morning. I read this this morning and wanted to plant a seed in our minds. 

BDHM says…” it has been noted that the greatest motivation for people in workplaces, is not money per se. A sense of self-worth and achievement is the highest motivation for workers. If someone does not feel important and appreciated, he often begins to look elsewhere”
So I ask myself a few questions…

1.) What motivation do give I to God to enable all my prayers to be answered. Not that he needs it?

2.) Do I really see God as important or my phone and other circular things?

3.) Do I always go when he sends me?

4.) How loyal am I really to God? 

This part got me……If someone does not feel important and appreciated, he often begins to look elsewhere.

That is what happens when you don’t allow God to use you, he will find someone else.

Matthew 7:6, Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.

May the good God always see us as being available. May He know that we indeed genuinely appreciate Him, so He can continually bless us and pour out His grace and mercies on us. Amen. 😇🙏

Okay I am done have a blessed day. 


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Survival Is Imperitive 

Good morning,

Hope you had a great weekend, I did 😊

So I was talking to a friend during the weekend, and something about my past came up. I mean I’ve know her for nearly 15 years and she had never know that fact about me.

I am not the type that hides anything about my past, but I wouldn’t also go round broadcasting. If it comes up and it will bring encouragement and healing to others I would gladly talk about it.

But the point I was making to her was the fact that, it only takes the mercies and grace of God to go through life experiences and come out without a scratch.

Things may look so bleak now, but joy is coming in the morning.

BDHM once said “A survivor must continue to exist or function in spite of adverse conditions. We are in a battle with a real enemy. The conditions are not good. Satan is the god of this world and in a sense, we are on his turf. Every survivor must come through and pull through.”

2 Corinthians 4:8-9, We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;

We have to find a way to carry on in life after every occurrences. The journey ahead is still far, so we must press on and pick ourselves up.

Am sure my friend couldn’t believe what I was telling her. When you see me walking on the streets, you cannot predict my past, or what I have been through. I don’t carry it on my face and it has never affected any areas of my life at present.

I feel so blessed when I think about it. I just cry every time during worship time, especially when I hear words like my stronghold, my refugee. Because that is what the Lord has been to me.

“Who am I that He is mindful of me.”

Always consider the fact that someone out there is going through worst.

I have learnt the act of letting go and letting God. I believe I have to harden up and be thougher than any problem that is coming my way.

The ability to accept that there will be trials and battles we have to fight, the better and easier it will be to go through them and come up on top.

BDHM also said “Confess boldly, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Say aloud, “I am able, more than able, to prevail and to win this battle. Though a thousand fall at my side and ten thousand at my left hand, I shall survive. I am a survivor in the name of Jesus. God will strengthen and keep me in all my ways”.

Philippians 4:13, I can do all things through Christ[a] who strengthens me.

Be encouraged and be blessed. Have a spirit filled week. Love you all but Jesus love you more. 😇🙏😘.


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Living my Life, Like it’s Golden.

Good morning,

Psalms 23:1, A Psalm of David. The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.

I wake up everyday with a new hope, with a new beginning that today will be better and I will live my life like it’s golden…

As I pray to the Lord to guide me about my day, bless the work of my hands, and protect me, all I can think about is the desire to live my life like it’s golden…

I go about about my day, it’s from one stress to the other. I start to crash, and start to feel low within myself, then I remember I have to live my life like it’s golden…

When I think about the Lord and how gracious He has been, I remember His promises and I know if I walk according to His word, I will live my life like it’s golden…

The day is about to end then suddenly things take a dramatic change for the better, then I am encouraged, I am going to get to live my life like it’s golden…

As I pray before I sleep, I pray to God, to guide me in sleep. I thank Him, for it is only by His grace I stand and by His grace that I get to live my life like it’s golden…

Psalms 91:1-3, He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust. Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence.

4-6, He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler. Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day; Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday.

7-9, A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee. Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked. Because thou hast made the Lord, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation;

10-12, There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling. For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways. They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone.

13-15, Thou shalt tread upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet. Because he hath set his love upon me, therefore will I deliver him: I will set him on high, because he hath known my name.

15-16, He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him.With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation.