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The Available Becomes The Wanted 

Good morning,

I came across a clip recently about a man finding comfort in the arms of his maid. The clip portrayed his wife always working, doesn’t clean or cook nor have regular sex with her husband. She instructed the maid to take good care of her husband, and attend to his every need, she kept emphasising on his every need part. 

Now this lady being very naive, took it literally and when the husband made a pass at her, she concluded it was part of her duties as her boss did say “every need“. 

Well all jokes apart………….Men like service, they love attention and demand a lot of care. Am average man likes a woman that massages his ego. A woman that shows respect and is submissive.

When we read the account of Vashti, she didn’t play her role well and she was replaced. 

Esther 1:10-12, 10 On the seventh day, when King Xerxes was in high spirits from wine, he commanded the seven eunuchs who served him—Mehuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, Abagtha, Zethar and Karkas— 11 to bring before him Queen Vashti, wearing her royal crown, in order to display her beauty to the people and nobles, for she was lovely to look at. 12 But when the attendants delivered the king’s command, Queen Vashti refused to come. Then the king became furious and burned with anger.

Esther 1:19, 19 “Therefore, if it pleases the king, let him issue a royal decree and let it be written in the laws of Persia and Media, which cannot be repealed, that Vashti is never again to enter the presence of King Xerxes. Also let the king give her royal position to someone else who is better than she.

Esther on the other hand knew how to play the role very well. She was very submissive and used a lot of wisdom to dwell with her man, a king at that. 

You see when an average man cheats and cheats but never leaves home, I think it is because deep down in his heart he still loves his wife, but because he isn’t satisfied at home, he looks elsewhere and probably wishes it was his wife he was with each time.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not condoning nor making excuses for men. I believe a trully God fearing man should refrain from such sin no matter his situation at home and get counselling.

Let us not ruin own own home with our own hands. Let us play our roles with great wisdom and not manipulation. Let us be fortified with prayer constantly for a God to shield our homes from strange women.

A great woman…, she rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And portions to her maidens.

Proverbs 31:15,

Don’t send another friend, mother or sister to do your duties. If you are going to be away for some time, cook and portion them  into the fridge or freezer. If you have to get a maid, get one that leaves on the same day if possible. Don’t let the help attend to your husbands personal needs.

Because remember ladies “When the wanted is not available the available will becomes the wanted”.

Yours always😘🙏😇, this is…


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Nothing else in common 🤷‍♀️💔🤷‍♂️

Good morning,

I believe you had a great weekend and I thank God for keeping you. 

“The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread”. ~Mother Teresa

I hear this statement all the time “we no long have anything in common”. 


WIFE:- I have been with my husband for about 13 years now and we have a decent relationship but there is no passion, affection, or excitement. We just have nothing in common anymore and live mostly like roomates.

HUSBAND:- After hearing my wife say for the past 12 years that she feels like we’re roommates. I don’t play video games, I’m active with my kids, I try to be as sensitive to my wife’s needs as I possibly know how, but I keep “coming up short!?” I’m not trying to paint myself as a noble saint–I know I’m not perfect. I am just genuinely trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong (for 12 years) that is upsetting her!? Whenever I try to ask her, she tells that I just don’t get it and then ends the conversation. I’m fishing here for any kind of any answer, because it feels like any minute the wheels are going to come flying off our marriage and I won’t have a clue as to what happened or how to resolve it!? I love her, I want to be with her, I’m doing everything I know to do, but like I said, I just keep coming up short!?

Firstly I find it the most absurd comment people make when they want out of their marriage. You didn’t have anything in common in the first place. Apart from that, as long as there is real love, when there is a bend in the marriage, the passion, affection, or excitement, can always be revived.

So I asked a few people who had similar issues and this is what I found, that they had married for the wrong reasons in the first place. When I asked why did you get married?, these where their reason,

1.) I really liked him, but mostly for financial stability

2.) I was getting older, but yes I loved him too

3.) He was very handsome and I fell in love 

4.) I was ready to start having children and we were ok at the time.

And so on…

This past weekend a friend had come to work with me on a wedding. During the time it randomly dropped into my heart and I said to her “aren’t you glad we married for love”. She said “Yes”. We may not have what we know some of our friends have, but we can see they didn’t marry for genuine love. 

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

 I realised a lot of marriages fall out of love because they married for the wrong reasons. They didn’t consider what the will of God was in choosing a spouse. They didn’t pray, they went only on emotions and feelings. 

Frankly you were not in love in the first place and that is why the love never grew. Real love grows and people enjoy each other more and more as time goes by. The first mistake is not waiting on God for the right person, which then leaves you with the wrong people or frankly choosing the bad apples.

Psalm 27, Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.

Keep God at the centre always. Because the nearer you are the better your marriage and the further you are the more the marriage weakens. 

Have a great week ahead and remember “Love is fruitful and is meant to grown when sown on a good ground and not wither away like it was sown on a stony ground”. Please choose wisely!

Yours always, this is…


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All You Need!

Good morning,

It’s been too long, I have truly missed writing to you. But I needed the time off and now I get why. I wouldn’t bore you with  the detail until God wants me to talk about it to encourage someone one day.


2 Peter 1:3, God has granted to us everything we need for life and godliness through knowing Christ and trusting in His all-sufficient promises.

I have tried to start writing now for the past one week and kept feeling unready. So as I started to write this at exactly 4:10am this morning, while trying to pray and fall back asleep, I was thinking of all the young ladies in my life. I am sure as they read this, they would wonder whom am talking about. But you see I am talking to you all.

You see me as a role model because I give good advice, I sound wise and I come across collected and in charge by Gods grace of my life. But you see it didn’t happen overnight. I decided I truly wanted a change. I mean a complete change.

I was in my second year of uni when I was dating a young man with intentions of marriage. He became my worst nightmare. Another story for another day. But during this time I was looking for my next boyfriend, whom will make me feel better, a comforter, for someone to love me, for someone to want me.

But you see the Holy Spirit is the best comforter. 

John 14:26 – But the Comforter, [which is] the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.

Then I heard a voice say “I AM ALL YOU NEED”. I asked all I need? In that same instant the Holy Spirit made me realise, that Jesus is all I needed. Filled my heart with so much love, that I wept so hard and surrender my life to Him. He expressed to me that no man nor boyfriend could ever fill the void I was feeling.

So the change began by me….,

1.) I stopped drinking

2.) I stopped partying

3.) I stop wearing provocative clothing

4.) I stopped posing in pictures try to portray sexiness. 

5.) I stopped listening to worldly music 

6.) I learnt how to fall in love with God.

7.) I learnt to love myself 

And so on… and this is why you can look up to me as someone who’s got it all together. But what you don’t know is I am still constantly working on myself. As they say “Rome wasn’t built in a day”.

I have realised that I counsel you all every time but I sometimes don’t see the actual change that will better you for the good.

As I look through some picture post some had posted, I realised how can you flee from sexual lost, when your selfies looks like you are selling yourself as a sexual product. SOME OF, IF NOT ALL OF THE POSES ARE TOO EROTIC. I know we are in the days of people liking your sexy selfies. I will not be liking anyone of those pictures just to let you know. But I love you, and just trying to show you something.


Beauty is vain. 

Proverbs 31:30, Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

We say we want to get married, but what kind of man are we attracting with those poses. What kind of message are we sending to our potential husbands. 
There is a saying in my language “Don’t make a boyfriend your husband and don’t mistakenly make a potential husband a boyfriend”. 

You keep falling back into those insecurities, loneliness, feeling of not being worthy because true change hasn’t come.

When you know your true worth in Christ, NO MAN WILL MAKE YOU FEEL UNWANTED. Because you will already know that you are God’s own special creation and you are made for greater things.

Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

This is just to let you know I AM BACK! Please feel free to ask me to remove you from the broadcast. I am here for those who need me. God bless you and my love always. 😇🙏😘

All I Need by Hillsong


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Cry Of The Broken… #Betrayal ‼️

Good morning,

I believe you have all been well. So I know it’s been about nearly 2 weeks 😳😳😳😳. I didn’t think I could do without writing to you for one day. But I desperately needed the rest ya’ll. The same person who told me to start this, also told me to rest. I always try to be obedient 🙏🙈.

So as I was about to sleep last night,  causally preaparing myself, then the Holy Spirit dropped it in my heart that there is someone whom is making a big mistake with their reactions/actions from being betrayed. I heard the words You need to tell them NOW!!!

(This means I might not be fully back to my writing duties).


2 Corinthians 1:5 For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ.

What is a BETRAYAL???

Well according to wiki, “Betrayal is the breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust, or confidence by that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations.”

You see the loosing of trust and confidence hurts because the one whom betrayed you is never an enemy or stranger, it is usually the one whom you love.

The worst type of betrayal usually happens between a married couple. It is nearly impossible to come back from a marriage that suffered an act of betrayal. 

But you see, I believe it is either we decided to be honest with ourselves and totally agree to making it work or walk away and suffer the consequences. 

Because if we are not honest with ourselves, betrayal doesn’t only leave us heart broken, but it leaves a permanent blemish on our souls. It takes us to a dark and dingy place, a place filled with pain and hurts. 

You have to analysis yourself and see where you fell short and never let those things reapeat itself. The one who betrayed you is not the only one whom requires a change.

If you also get an opportunity to vent, take it and vent. Take time to be sure you still want in. 

Even Jesus took time praying in accepting if he still wanted in on going on the cross. 

Luke 22:41-42, And he was withdrawn from them about a stone’s cast, and kneeled down, and prayed, Saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done.

Though he felt betrayed by his own to die for sinners like you and I, he took it because he understood and valued the long term benefit of staying in. He had geniueinly forgiven knowing he would be betrayed.

I know it’s easier said than done, as long as the other party is also genuinely willing to work hard at it, we also have to try our hardest. As Christian’s we quote this verse all the time…

Matthew 19:26 But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

We must believe it and act upon it and believe we can be happy again in that relationship. It is hard to do anything on our own, but we must trust in the strength of God to help us. We can genuinely trust again and in deed “WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE”.

I just want to encourage somebody today, there is still time to save the situation. Don’t be afraid. God’s got you.

Philippians 4:13 I am able to do all things through Him who strengthens me.

Love always 😇🙏😘.

Cry Of The Broken by Hillsong


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Good morning,

So as I woke up this morning asking God what to write about and also telling God I can’t think straight, I practically prayed all night and dozed off in between lol 🙈😂. I’ve got a lot on my mind which I will gladly share very soon, I heard the word rest.

Then as usual whenever I am thinking of something BDHM writes about it. I promise you I am not just making this up. It amazes me too. As I wanted to read the daily quiet time is see the title called Rest. 😳😊. 

I guess it is a confirmation. And I am going to do just that. 

Enjoy the read and if you don’t hear from me, I am very well,  I’m just resting. I will write whenever I can but for now, I am resting. God bless you all and I love you all. 😇🙏😘.


 by Dag Heward-Mills 

READ: Mark 6:7-13; 30-31 

Isaiah 40:31, But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength… they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

The Bible says that Jesus Christ is the power and the wisdom of God.

1 Corinthians 1: 24, But unto them which are called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God, and the wisdom of God.

Jesus Christ was not just powerful. When you become a Christian, Jesus comes to help you by being the power and the wisdom of God in your life. Christians become unbalanced when they just take the power of God and leave out the wisdom. You need both the power and the wisdom, if you want to make it in this life.

Medical science can transplant hearts today and solve many problems. Many children would be dead from various diseases like malaria, convulsions, and measles if there were no medicines.

God has given us the wisdom to think and to have common sense. One time, Jesus told His disciples to go aside and rest awhile. He told them to rest. That is wisdom.

Why did Jesus tell His disciples to rest? There are many diseases that come from not resting. My wife is always suggesting that I rest. It is common sense to rest when you need to. Jesus ministered to the sick but He did sensible and practical things too.

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There Is A Miracle With Your Name On It 🕊

Good morning,

Psalm 77:14, You are the God who works wonders; you have made known your might among the peoples.

So sometime last week during the offering time, as I was praying over the offering, the Lord put in my heart that somebody will receive help to pay off some debts. Now obviously I was not receiving it for myself I just thought I was giving a word to somebody in the congregation.

Fast forward Monday night,as my husband and I where about to go to bed, we were listening to music videos and Tasha Cobbs came on with the song Break Every Chain

Break Every Chain by Tasha Cobbs
As I listened, I remembered so many testimonies so many people had given in church about how God came through, like unexpected money and so on. You know when people come and testify and you just never have anything to say.

As some of you know my husband is a pastor and I mightly assist him in church also. So praying, fasting and knowing the scriptures to use is not alien. I mean I do regular quiet time, I never miss church so why the delay. 

If you like sleep in the church every night, you can be the head of the church and do everything right, but you also still need to wait in line for your miracle. (That’s a lesson learnt)

As my husband went up to bed I decided to stay back and pray, then another song came up “Put A Praise On It”

Put A Praise On It by Tasha Cobbs

I started telling God indeed there is a miracle in with my name on it and I prayed for a moment and I just suddenly stoppped and just kept watching to the music video. By yesterday evening I got a phone call, someone was offering me help towards what I needed help with and I just could not believe what I was hearing.

I was extremely overwhelmed and also shocked for what the Lord has done. 

Then I said to God really??? And he said “yes there are times I move immediately and there are times you need to wait”

Sometimes our miracles come immediately and other times it delays. But there is always a reason why you have to wait another day, because there was a lesson to learn from the waiting period. 

And if we are blessed to have the miracle answered immediately, then God must know and trust you with the miracle and that was why you received it there and then. It’s called grace and unmerited favour.

Ephesians 2:8, For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God.

This is my testimony I just want encourage somebody out there that there is a miracle with your name on it and it is on it’s way.

Now let the rest of my miracles start trooping in, in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen. 

Matthew 19:26, Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

Yours truly, and stay blessed 😇🙏😘💃😊


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Be Free! #befree

Good morning,

It’s been some days, well just needed to recouparate. I was seriously tired. Not that I got much rest in does days.

There comes a time you just have to decided to force yourself to rest. Well that’s enough about me. 😂🙈

Be Free

I don’t know who this word is for, but the Lord asked me to tell you to Be Free!

2 Corinthians 3:17 Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.

Be Free in the Lord Jesus Christ.

Be Free from premature death.

Be Free of insecurities.

Be Free from lies and deception. 

Be Free from every bondage. 

Be Free from every brokenness.

Be Free from every demon you are wrestling with. 

Be Free from unspiritual thoughts.

Be Free from mind games.

Be Free from every force that is not like God.

Galatians 5:1 It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.

Be Free from every plan of the enemy.

Be Free from fear.

Be Free from every sickness.

Be Free from every addiction. 

Be Free from every slumber.

Be Free from every form of laziness.

Be Free from demonic attacks.

Be Free from lustful desires.

Be Free from suicidal thoughts.

Be Free from evil wickedness.

Be Free from Debt.

Be Free from frozen thoughts.

Be Free from indecisiveness.

Be Free from pretentiousness

Be Free from a broke heart.

Be Free from loneliness.

Be Free from sadness.


John 8:36 So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

Where The Spirit Of The Lord Is by Hillsong

Be blessed and remain free. Have a great week. 😇🙏😘