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The Available Becomes The Wanted 

Good morning,

I came across a clip recently about a man finding comfort in the arms of his maid. The clip portrayed his wife always working, doesn’t clean or cook nor have regular sex with her husband. She instructed the maid to take good care of her husband, and attend to his every need, she kept emphasising on his every need part. 

Now this lady being very naive, took it literally and when the husband made a pass at her, she concluded it was part of her duties as her boss did say “every need“. 

Well all jokes apart………….Men like service, they love attention and demand a lot of care. Am average man likes a woman that massages his ego. A woman that shows respect and is submissive.

When we read the account of Vashti, she didn’t play her role well and she was replaced. 

Esther 1:10-12, 10 On the seventh day, when King Xerxes was in high spirits from wine, he commanded the seven eunuchs who served him—Mehuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, Abagtha, Zethar and Karkas— 11 to bring before him Queen Vashti, wearing her royal crown, in order to display her beauty to the people and nobles, for she was lovely to look at. 12 But when the attendants delivered the king’s command, Queen Vashti refused to come. Then the king became furious and burned with anger.

Esther 1:19, 19 “Therefore, if it pleases the king, let him issue a royal decree and let it be written in the laws of Persia and Media, which cannot be repealed, that Vashti is never again to enter the presence of King Xerxes. Also let the king give her royal position to someone else who is better than she.

Esther on the other hand knew how to play the role very well. She was very submissive and used a lot of wisdom to dwell with her man, a king at that. 

You see when an average man cheats and cheats but never leaves home, I think it is because deep down in his heart he still loves his wife, but because he isn’t satisfied at home, he looks elsewhere and probably wishes it was his wife he was with each time.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not condoning nor making excuses for men. I believe a trully God fearing man should refrain from such sin no matter his situation at home and get counselling.

Let us not ruin own own home with our own hands. Let us play our roles with great wisdom and not manipulation. Let us be fortified with prayer constantly for a God to shield our homes from strange women.

A great woman…, she rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And portions to her maidens.

Proverbs 31:15,

Don’t send another friend, mother or sister to do your duties. If you are going to be away for some time, cook and portion them  into the fridge or freezer. If you have to get a maid, get one that leaves on the same day if possible. Don’t let the help attend to your husbands personal needs.

Because remember ladies “When the wanted is not available the available will becomes the wanted”.

Yours always😘🙏😇, this is…


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Nothing else in common 🤷‍♀️💔🤷‍♂️

Good morning,

I believe you had a great weekend and I thank God for keeping you. 

“The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread”. ~Mother Teresa

I hear this statement all the time “we no long have anything in common”. 


WIFE:- I have been with my husband for about 13 years now and we have a decent relationship but there is no passion, affection, or excitement. We just have nothing in common anymore and live mostly like roomates.

HUSBAND:- After hearing my wife say for the past 12 years that she feels like we’re roommates. I don’t play video games, I’m active with my kids, I try to be as sensitive to my wife’s needs as I possibly know how, but I keep “coming up short!?” I’m not trying to paint myself as a noble saint–I know I’m not perfect. I am just genuinely trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong (for 12 years) that is upsetting her!? Whenever I try to ask her, she tells that I just don’t get it and then ends the conversation. I’m fishing here for any kind of any answer, because it feels like any minute the wheels are going to come flying off our marriage and I won’t have a clue as to what happened or how to resolve it!? I love her, I want to be with her, I’m doing everything I know to do, but like I said, I just keep coming up short!?

Firstly I find it the most absurd comment people make when they want out of their marriage. You didn’t have anything in common in the first place. Apart from that, as long as there is real love, when there is a bend in the marriage, the passion, affection, or excitement, can always be revived.

So I asked a few people who had similar issues and this is what I found, that they had married for the wrong reasons in the first place. When I asked why did you get married?, these where their reason,

1.) I really liked him, but mostly for financial stability

2.) I was getting older, but yes I loved him too

3.) He was very handsome and I fell in love 

4.) I was ready to start having children and we were ok at the time.

And so on…

This past weekend a friend had come to work with me on a wedding. During the time it randomly dropped into my heart and I said to her “aren’t you glad we married for love”. She said “Yes”. We may not have what we know some of our friends have, but we can see they didn’t marry for genuine love. 

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

 I realised a lot of marriages fall out of love because they married for the wrong reasons. They didn’t consider what the will of God was in choosing a spouse. They didn’t pray, they went only on emotions and feelings. 

Frankly you were not in love in the first place and that is why the love never grew. Real love grows and people enjoy each other more and more as time goes by. The first mistake is not waiting on God for the right person, which then leaves you with the wrong people or frankly choosing the bad apples.

Psalm 27, Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.

Keep God at the centre always. Because the nearer you are the better your marriage and the further you are the more the marriage weakens. 

Have a great week ahead and remember “Love is fruitful and is meant to grown when sown on a good ground and not wither away like it was sown on a stony ground”. Please choose wisely!

Yours always, this is…


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Good morning,

I read this by Bishop Dag Heward Mills, this morning and decided to share it with you. It totally ministered to me and I totally needed it.

We had a fasting and prayer recently and we prayed for favour. I started to see the hands of the Lord moving. So this message this morning is a confirmation.  I pray it blesses and encourages you also. 



by Dag Heward-Mills

READ: Genesis 29:15-31


Psalm 84:11, For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly


My dear friend, have you ever watched a soccer match without knowing who was really playing? As you watched for a while, you began to notice the side that was losing. Most of the time, we tend to instinctively support the losing team. As they say, “People support the underdogs.”
That support you have for the underdogs is a God-given instinct to support the disadvantaged.
Today, if you are in a disadvantaged situation, be it known unto you that God is on your side. The Lord is helping you right now! It may seem as though you are disfavoured, but that is what provokes God.
The Bible says very clearly that when God saw that Leah was not liked, He compensated for it by showing divine favour.

Genesis 29:31, And when the Lord saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren

God opened the womb of Leah and gave her children. Suddenly, Leah was a favoured person. She was the only one who could bring children into the family.
Dear brother or sister, perhaps you consider yourself to be in a disdvantaged position. That is the reason why Jesus is giving you extra favour. He is going to change your misfortunes. You don’t have to be discouraged. Today, remember these words: the Lord’s favour is upon your life!!


This Is Our God by Hillsong

Be blessed always, 😇🙏😘 and this is…


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Invitation To The Wrong Guest ✉️📬

Good morning,

Great to be back and God bless all who messaged to welcome me back. May God honour and remember you also in Jesus name. Amen. 

Straight to me point this morning. There was a certain lady, she used to watch porn all the time and even in marriage. She had been married for many many years and couldn’t have a child.

She had gone through all the checks and the doctors said all was well and healthy between herself and her husband. 

Then one day it was revealed to her that she should stop watching porn. She did by stopping to watchnporn, prayed and prayed for God’s mercy and forgiveness, and almost immediately shortly after, she conceived a child.

The Holy Spirit brought it to her attention, that while she was watching porn, it had blocked God’s spiritual access to making her fruitful. 

I know of another couple whom used to watch porn together and this ended up causing infidelity in their marriage also.

We want to be fruitful, but we are walking in darkness. Giving free invitations to demons. Then these demons will also go and invite their other friends. 

Matthew 12:45, Then goeth he, and taketh with himself seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter in and dwell there: and the last state of that man is worse than the first. Even so shall it be also unto this wicked generation.

God cannot use us or help us to bear fruits when we are not clean, we have to be pure.

It is really important to be cautious of the things we digest, spiritually, physically, emotionally, the things we watch and listen to. 

It is clear that what we take in is what we produce.


Luke 1:28, And the angel came in unto her, and said, Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women.

Dear brethren be careful of what you unknowingly invite into your life. Be prayerful and abiding in the word of the Lord.

Receive the visitation of the Holy Spirit. Be blessed and highly favoured in Jesus name. Amen!

Yours truly and always, this is…


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Cry Of The Broken… #Betrayal ‼️

Good morning,

I believe you have all been well. So I know it’s been about nearly 2 weeks 😳😳😳😳. I didn’t think I could do without writing to you for one day. But I desperately needed the rest ya’ll. The same person who told me to start this, also told me to rest. I always try to be obedient 🙏🙈.

So as I was about to sleep last night,  causally preaparing myself, then the Holy Spirit dropped it in my heart that there is someone whom is making a big mistake with their reactions/actions from being betrayed. I heard the words You need to tell them NOW!!!

(This means I might not be fully back to my writing duties).


2 Corinthians 1:5 For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ.

What is a BETRAYAL???

Well according to wiki, “Betrayal is the breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust, or confidence by that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations.”

You see the loosing of trust and confidence hurts because the one whom betrayed you is never an enemy or stranger, it is usually the one whom you love.

The worst type of betrayal usually happens between a married couple. It is nearly impossible to come back from a marriage that suffered an act of betrayal. 

But you see, I believe it is either we decided to be honest with ourselves and totally agree to making it work or walk away and suffer the consequences. 

Because if we are not honest with ourselves, betrayal doesn’t only leave us heart broken, but it leaves a permanent blemish on our souls. It takes us to a dark and dingy place, a place filled with pain and hurts. 

You have to analysis yourself and see where you fell short and never let those things reapeat itself. The one who betrayed you is not the only one whom requires a change.

If you also get an opportunity to vent, take it and vent. Take time to be sure you still want in. 

Even Jesus took time praying in accepting if he still wanted in on going on the cross. 

Luke 22:41-42, And he was withdrawn from them about a stone’s cast, and kneeled down, and prayed, Saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done.

Though he felt betrayed by his own to die for sinners like you and I, he took it because he understood and valued the long term benefit of staying in. He had geniueinly forgiven knowing he would be betrayed.

I know it’s easier said than done, as long as the other party is also genuinely willing to work hard at it, we also have to try our hardest. As Christian’s we quote this verse all the time…

Matthew 19:26 But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

We must believe it and act upon it and believe we can be happy again in that relationship. It is hard to do anything on our own, but we must trust in the strength of God to help us. We can genuinely trust again and in deed “WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE”.

I just want to encourage somebody today, there is still time to save the situation. Don’t be afraid. God’s got you.

Philippians 4:13 I am able to do all things through Him who strengthens me.

Love always 😇🙏😘.

Cry Of The Broken by Hillsong


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Good morning,

So as I woke up this morning asking God what to write about and also telling God I can’t think straight, I practically prayed all night and dozed off in between lol 🙈😂. I’ve got a lot on my mind which I will gladly share very soon, I heard the word rest.

Then as usual whenever I am thinking of something BDHM writes about it. I promise you I am not just making this up. It amazes me too. As I wanted to read the daily quiet time is see the title called Rest. 😳😊. 

I guess it is a confirmation. And I am going to do just that. 

Enjoy the read and if you don’t hear from me, I am very well,  I’m just resting. I will write whenever I can but for now, I am resting. God bless you all and I love you all. 😇🙏😘.


 by Dag Heward-Mills 

READ: Mark 6:7-13; 30-31 

Isaiah 40:31, But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength… they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

The Bible says that Jesus Christ is the power and the wisdom of God.

1 Corinthians 1: 24, But unto them which are called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God, and the wisdom of God.

Jesus Christ was not just powerful. When you become a Christian, Jesus comes to help you by being the power and the wisdom of God in your life. Christians become unbalanced when they just take the power of God and leave out the wisdom. You need both the power and the wisdom, if you want to make it in this life.

Medical science can transplant hearts today and solve many problems. Many children would be dead from various diseases like malaria, convulsions, and measles if there were no medicines.

God has given us the wisdom to think and to have common sense. One time, Jesus told His disciples to go aside and rest awhile. He told them to rest. That is wisdom.

Why did Jesus tell His disciples to rest? There are many diseases that come from not resting. My wife is always suggesting that I rest. It is common sense to rest when you need to. Jesus ministered to the sick but He did sensible and practical things too.

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When I Was A Child 

Good morning,


It is an uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence.

I was having a conversation yesterday with two of my girlies. As we spoke I heard the Holy Spirit say that “did you know that insecurities doesn’t just start from adulthood, it started from childhood.”
(I know you would say dah!)

“What is making it grow into adulthood, is the inability to stop it in its tracks.”

“These insecurities caused you to make wrong choices when you were dating the wrong men.”

“It caused you to choose the wrong friends.”

“It caused the lack of confidence in yourself.”

“Insecurity makes you feel unworthy and unwanted.”

Then He reminder me of when I was a child in year 8,(in secondary school), I used to flick my Afro like a little Caucasian or Asian girl would. Well you can’t blame me, they were the only friends I had at the time and I wanted to be and look like them. 

I thought I had to have long hair to be beautiful and fit in, and because I thought it was a cute thing to do. Though I didn’t have long hair and there wasn’t much I was flicking away from my face, I did it to feel among. 

This meant, I was not secure in myself, in my Afro hair. My mum and grandma would tell me off and laugh at me for my silliness. My mum will tell me “you are  Afro/Caribbean, love yourself and stop trying to be like others.” 

I did stop and started embracing my Afro/self.

It’s is vital as an up coming parent to identify these things in our children, speak to them and correct them. If they are not corrected it will enter into their adulthood and become bigger demons.

We can be the cause of our children’s insecurities. I once read…

“The critical inner voice is formed out of painful early life experiences in which we witnessed or experienced hurtful attitudes toward us or those close to us. As we grow up, we unconsciously adopt and integrate this pattern of destructive thoughts toward ourselves and others.

A childhood insecurity can vary from 0-10, depending on the child’s temperament. As parents we have to help our children and give them a sense of security and confidence that they can hold on to as they grow into adult life, full of joy and happiness. 

We have to set an example, don’t throw away anything they say. Make time to talk to them, set an example by showing them unconditional love. Make them know that they can come and talk to you anytime.

Overcoming insecurities as an adult starts from childhood. Let’s help our children to grow into confident and strong men and women.

As an adult if you feel insecure, go back to your childhood, look back and track back to when you noticed why and how you started feeling insecure. 

Meet with a leader in your church, or speak to someone to help you. Most importantly go on your knees and pray to God to strengthen you and to overshadow you with His love.

Philippians 4:6-7

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Let us help ourselves and our children to put away childish things. 

God bless and have a beautiful day 😇🙏😘

Yours truly and always,