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Good morning,


by Dag Heward-Mills 

READ: Matthew 19:1-9

19 And it came to pass that when Jesus had finished these sayings, He departed from Galilee and came into the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.

2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there

3 The Pharisees also came unto Him, testing Him and saying unto Him, “Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?”

4 And He answered and said unto them, “Have ye not read, that He that made them at the beginning made them male and female,

5 and said, ‘For this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh’?

6 Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

7 They said unto Him, “Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement and to put her away?”

8 He said unto them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, suffered you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.

9 And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery; and whoso marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery”.

God places the responsibility of cleaving on the man. He leaves and cleaves (glues) to his wife.

Genesis 2:24, Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Divorce occurs when he is not able to cleave tightly enough to become inseparable. Marriage rests on the shoulders of the man, just the same way divorce also does. 
Whatever happens in the home is the man’s responsibility, although it may not be his fault. When man fell and God came to the garden, He first called out to Adam and placed the responsibility for eating the fruit at his feet. There were no questions for the woman.
Divorce brings about many complications. God, generally, does not like broken fellowship of any sort. The concept of a broken home or broken life hurts God. An unending hurt is inflicted (Proverbs 17:14). A bitter personality is created (Proverbs 18:14). There is a permanent break up of relationship/fellowship (Proverbs 18:19).
Separation is the termination of a commitment with emotional involvement. Divorce is legalized separation. Do not make a marriage vow if you do not intend to keep it (Ecclesiastes 5:4, 5).

Be blessed and let us continue in love. 😇🙏😘


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Getting Married Doesn’t Solve All Your Problems!!!

Good morning,

I was talking to a young lady recently, and as she spoke I realised her thoughts on getting married was a bit off. 

We hear statements like these all the time…

* Jack you are approaching 40 and I am still cooking for you, go and marry
* Sandra you are nearly 35 you need to have a child, go and marry.

* He looks like a God fearing man.

* Get married because he/she will boost your social, financial and career life.

* Marry this one he/she seems humble
And so on…

* I just want a beautiful wedding.

* I will be complete and happy when I get married.

* If I don’t marry now, nobody will marry me.

Why do we always think marriage will solve our problems.

Take a look at what Jesus said (the Message Bible Version)

Matthew 19:11-12,

But Jesus said, “Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn’t for everyone. 

12 Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked – or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you’re capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it.

The verse said it requires certain aptitude (not that I knew what that meant until now lol)

“Aptitude means a natural attitude to do something”.

Marriage isn’t going to stop you feeling insecure. 

Many get married to even solve their financial issues, but then marry a woman beater, who will batter you emotionally, physiologically and mentally.

Some men even marry thinking it will stop their promiscuous ways.

But this is not true because at the beginning the scripture says “Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life”. Key word mature. And at the end of the verse it also says “But if you are capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it”.

This scripture is just saying it takes the grace of God and great maturity to get married and remain married. And if you are ready to grow and learn while in the marriage, then it will be blessed and fruitful.

let us not be obsessed with what we think life should be. I know you are thinking, “she’s married, so she doesn’t understand”.

I am saying it because I am married and I have seen a lot of marriages break down because they had married for the wrong reasons. The wrong decisions in get married by marrying the wrong people or at the wrong time, will cause you more pain than happiness.

I pray you will not be forced into the wrong decision out of desperation. I pray that your time will come and it will be beautiful. If your time hasn’t come, I pray God will give you peace to overcome this time of waiting. I pray that you will have an enjoyable marriage. I pray when you do get married, you will overcome every obstacle in the mighty name of Jesus.


God bless and have a fulfilled and blessed week. 😇😂😘.


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Girls like Boys…

Good morning,

Have you ever heard this statement before 

Girls like boys faaaaaar more than boys like girls“. By BDHM

So during a meeting recently my husband/pastor brought it up and the revelation he gave to justify this was amazing. So I though to share.

Remember this scripture when God said…

Genesis 3:16, Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

When God was distributing the punishments for our disobedience, one of the curses the for women was that “thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee”. 

So when you see that no matter how bitter, angry a woman is towards her husband or no matter what he has done to her, when you ask her, she will still tell you she loves him.

No matter how controlling the man is or how much she wants to leave, she just can’t understand why she still loves him.


“Then he added that it means that women do not have a choice than to love the man. But men do have a choice in deciding wherther or not to love a woman.”

You can be married to and man and he doesn’t love you but just decided to be with you. 

These are partly reason why you find a man been able to say he loves two women at a time. He can make the choice.

Scripture also tells us that God’s desire is that a man should love his wife and in doing so his prayers will be answered. There are so many scriptures to back it up, here are a few we know…

Colossians 3:19, Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.


1 Peter 3:7, ikewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

The way to mitigate this curse is to be blessed to have a spirit filled man, then he will love you just as much as you love him and also only you. 

Pray that the love of God will fill your husband or husband to be’s heart so that he will love you truthfully.

Pray that he is a man that loves the lord then he will love you 

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,


So if you have heard that saying before, just like me it finally makes sense.

Be blessed and have a great week 😇🙏😊


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A Good Friend or A Good Lover?

Good morning, I was meant to have posted this yesterday, but I didn’t. Now I know I have to after a conversation I had with someone else again about this same topic yesterday evening. The ability to choose in remaining friends or becoming lovers is of great importance. Job 34:4 “Let us choose for ourselves… Continue reading A Good Friend or A Good Lover?

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Voice of the Holy spirit

Good morning

2. Depend on the holy spirit for your marriage “and home.

Psalm 23:2, he maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me besides still waters.

With this point, I am going to briefly talk about how children and pride can affect a marriage.

I was talking to my husband last night, that when people see us, they think wow they are having life on a bed roses. You see it’s not always true, it takes constant work.

I have seen a lot of marriages around me, some are genuine and some you know it’s on the rocks. But the ability to carry it well is what paints the picture people around see.

Pride is the biggest problem in a marriage. With us, we talk about everything and anything no matter how silly it may seem or sound. We constantly keep allowing the Holy Spirit to minister to us and convict us individually of when we have done wrong.

It is hard to own up when you were so sure that you were right. It doesn’t make you foolish or the sucker, instead it should give you power.

That is what the Holy Spirit is there, for to ensure that we change our ways.

Take this expample of when Pharaoh finally realised his ways. As we know it could have only taken God to indeed turn the heart of a king.

Exodus 9:27, And Pharaoh sent, and called for Moses and Aaron, and said unto them, I have sinned this time: the Lord is righteous, and I and my people are wicked.

The ability to accept that you are unrighteousness and neither is your spouse will constantly encourage change and the ability to be remain humble.

Children is also another reason marriages have issues. When the couple do not agree on how one parent disciplines the child, or didn’t discipline the child and many more.

We have to remember that these children are going to leave us one day. We are justtheir guide into life and into the following of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Do not allow the devil to use your child against your marriage, when they are gone it will be left with just you two and you have to go back to the beginning, so that this blessing in this scripture will be your portion.

Proverbs 5:18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

As long as you keep teaching them in the way of the Lord together, just like you promised when took those vows on the dedication day, all we be well.

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.

Also don’t argue in front of the children, they will take sides depending on what they hear, don’t talk about your spouse to your children or criticise your spouse in front of your children.

You are creating a division in the family and corrupting the bond a family should hold.

Proverbs 11:29, 29 Whoever brings ruin on their family will inherit only wind, and the fool will be servant to the wise

I pray today that anyone going through any issues in their marriage or aspiring to be married will overcome pride in the name of Jesus. 

The devil will not use your children against you, in the name of Jesus. 

Receive healing grace, mercy and wisdom in that marriage or in that relationship aspiring to marriage in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen…

Be blessed 😇🙏😘


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The Voice of God 

Good morning,

I believe and hope you have all had a great long Easter weekend. Back to reality 😁. 

Today is also my King’s birthday. So grateful to be married to such a great anointed man. My best friend, My pastor, My shepherd.



I’m just going to share a little bit with you on a book I once read by BDHM called THE ART OF HEARING. This book changed my life…

There are many types of voices that affects the decisions we make, our outcome in life, and our reactions to things.

1 Corinthians 14:10, “There are, it may be, so many kinds of voices in the world, and none of them is without signification.” 

BDHM went on to list the voices 

“1~The voice of God ~

2~ The voice of the flesh ~

3~ The voice of the mind ~

4~ The voice of the devil ~

5~ The voice of a prophet ~

6~ The voice of your pastor ~

7~ The voice of your friends ~

8~ The voice of your parents ~

9~ The voice of your spirit ~

10~ The voice of your spouse ~

11~ The voice of circumstances ~

12~ The voice of your own will”

But the most important of all these voices is the voice of God. We have to make sure we are tuned to the right frequency and we can hear God’s voice very clearly.
BDHM went on to say why we need to hear God’s voice,
1. Depend on the voice of God for your needs.

Psalm 23:1, The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.

Our needs means everything in life, whether being the choice of spouse, choice of career, choice of the church to attend and so on, and even choice on which battles to fight. We must put our ears to the ground and listen out for the best navigation systems (The Holy Spirit), on earth to be our guide. 

God uses the voice of the Holy Spirit to help us, to direct our paths, to counsel us, remind us, keep us in check of all our sinful ways,

John 14:26, But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you.

The voice of God is also his word. The ability to read the bible and find verses relating to our situation will keep us a step ahead. It will constantly keep Gods voice afresh in us, that when he speaks it will be audible.

A cardinal sign that indeed we are hearing God is when it shows through our fruits.

Galatians 5:22, But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,

It is not only by how rich or famous we are, that shows that indeed we have heard God’s voice and we are walking according to His will.

Instead it should be by the show of our character. By the way we are allowing God to change us and work through. We have to walk the walk not just talk the walk.

Galatians 5:25, If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.

By listening to God, we can become better followers of Christ and bring light to others around us.

It is much important than all the other things we expect to hear from God’s voice.

Matthew 5:16, Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

This is our ultimate goal my brethren. Let your fruits show in the fact that indeed you hear God and hear him clearly. If you hear him, you will win souls for him and turn the people’s heart towards him.that will be your desire as a child of God.

John 10:27, My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:

Before I drop the pen. As I woke up this morning to blog. I shall do 2 quiet times. One from BDHM and the other the blog. 

Today’s quiet by BDHM is so related to what I wanted to talk about. If you look at the picture below, you would see

So enjoy this piece as well. Be blessed and have a great week. 😇🙏😘


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#Natural v #Supernatural

Good morning. 

Another very important and powerful message I read this morning by BDHM. I need to pass it on for the spiritual minded or those interested in spiritual things.

by Dag Heward-Mills

READ: 1 Samuel 3:1-11,

And the child Samuel ministered unto the Lord before Eli. And the word of the Lord was precious in those days; there was no open vision. And it came to pass at that time, when Eli was lying down in his place, and his eyes began to wax dim so that he could not see, and ere the lamp of God went out in the temple of the Lord where the ark of God was, and Samuel was lying down to sleep, that the Lord called Samuel; and he answered, “Here am I.”

And he ran unto Eli and said, “Here am I, for thou called me.” And he said, “I called not; lie down again.” And he went and lay down. And the Lord called yet again, “Samuel.” And Samuel arose and went to Eli and said, “Here am I, for thou didst call me.” And he answered, “I called not, my son; lie down again.” Now Samuel did not yet know the Lord, neither was the word of the Lord yet revealed unto him.

And the Lord called Samuel again the third time. And he arose and went to Eli and said, “Here am I, for thou didst call me.” And Eli perceived that the Lord had called the child. Therefore Eli said unto Samuel, “Go, lie down; and it shall be, if He call thee, that thou shalt say, ‘Speak, Lord, for Thy servant heareth.’” So Samuel went and lay down in his place.

And the Lord came and stood, and called as at other times, “Samuel, Samuel.” Then Samuel answered, “Speak, for Thy servant heareth.” And the Lord said to Samuel, “Behold, I will do a thing in Israel at which both the ears of every one who heareth it shall tingle.


The supernatural is often mistaken for the natural. Because of that, the supernatural passes us by and we do not even realize it. Consider the call of the prophet Samuel.

One night as he slept, he heard a voice, which sounded so much like that of his senior pastor, Eli. Samuel heard this voice thrice and thought each time that it was a human voice. Could it be that the supernatural voice of God is so similar to the natural voice of man? It was the experienced prophet, Eli, who guided Samuel to receive the supernatural.

Some of the thoughts that flash through your mind are from God. They are the voice of God ministering direction to you. Jesus made it clear that the Holy Spirit would minister to Christians through their minds.

John 14:26,…the Holy Ghost… shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance…

The above scripture (John 14:26) explains that the Holy Spirit brings things to your mind. However, if your heart (thoughts and feelings) has become fat, stupid, dull and inattentive, you will never know when the Holy Spirit speaks to your mind. You will not know the difference between your own thoughts and those from the Holy Spirit.
Learn something right here! The supernatural is not always sensational, dramatic or spectacular. My experience with the supernatural is that God uses my organs of perception: of feeling, thinking, seeing and hearing. He will do the same for you. It may not be spectacular or thrilling, but it certainly is supernatural.

What a blessing and powerful revelation

Be blessed as you enter deeper into the understanding of supernatural and spiritual things. Amen 😇🙏😊