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All You Need!

Good morning,

It’s been too long, I have truly missed writing to you. But I needed the time off and now I get why. I wouldn’t bore you with  the detail until God wants me to talk about it to encourage someone one day.

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2 Peter 1:3, God has granted to us everything we need for life and godliness through knowing Christ and trusting in His all-sufficient promises.

I have tried to start writing now for the past one week and kept feeling unready. So as I started to write this at exactly 4:10am this morning, while trying to pray and fall back asleep, I was thinking of all the young ladies in my life. I am sure as they read this, they would wonder whom am talking about. But you see I am talking to you all.

You see me as a role model because I give good advice, I sound wise and I come across collected and in charge by Gods grace of my life. But you see it didn’t happen overnight. I decided I truly wanted a change. I mean a complete change.

I was in my second year of uni when I was dating a young man with intentions of marriage. He became my worst nightmare. Another story for another day. But during this time I was looking for my next boyfriend, whom will make me feel better, a comforter, for someone to love me, for someone to want me.

But you see the Holy Spirit is the best comforter. 

John 14:26 – But the Comforter, [which is] the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.


Then I heard a voice say “I AM ALL YOU NEED”. I asked all I need? In that same instant the Holy Spirit made me realise, that Jesus is all I needed. Filled my heart with so much love, that I wept so hard and surrender my life to Him. He expressed to me that no man nor boyfriend could ever fill the void I was feeling.

So the change began by me….,

1.) I stopped drinking

2.) I stopped partying

3.) I stop wearing provocative clothing

4.) I stopped posing in pictures try to portray sexiness. 

5.) I stopped listening to worldly music 

6.) I learnt how to fall in love with God.

7.) I learnt to love myself 

And so on… and this is why you can look up to me as someone who’s got it all together. But what you don’t know is I am still constantly working on myself. As they say “Rome wasn’t built in a day”.

I have realised that I counsel you all every time but I sometimes don’t see the actual change that will better you for the good.

As I look through some picture post some had posted, I realised how can you flee from sexual lost, when your selfies looks like you are selling yourself as a sexual product. SOME OF, IF NOT ALL OF THE POSES ARE TOO EROTIC. I know we are in the days of people liking your sexy selfies. I will not be liking anyone of those pictures just to let you know. But I love you, and just trying to show you something.

YOU SAY YOU DONT WANT TO FORNICATE BUT YOU TAKE SELFIES SAYING I AM SEXUALLY AVAILABLE, I AM INTO SUCH THINGS.

Beauty is vain. 

Proverbs 31:30, Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

We say we want to get married, but what kind of man are we attracting with those poses. What kind of message are we sending to our potential husbands. 
There is a saying in my language “Don’t make a boyfriend your husband and don’t mistakenly make a potential husband a boyfriend”. 

You keep falling back into those insecurities, loneliness, feeling of not being worthy because true change hasn’t come.

When you know your true worth in Christ, NO MAN WILL MAKE YOU FEEL UNWANTED. Because you will already know that you are God’s own special creation and you are made for greater things.

Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

This is just to let you know I AM BACK! Please feel free to ask me to remove you from the broadcast. I am here for those who need me. God bless you and my love always. πŸ˜‡πŸ™πŸ˜˜

All I Need by Hillsong

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Cry Of The Broken… #Betrayal β€ΌοΈ

Good morning,

I believe you have all been well. So I know it’s been about nearly 2 weeks 😳😳😳😳. I didn’t think I could do without writing to you for one day. But I desperately needed the rest ya’ll. The same person who told me to start this, also told me to rest. I always try to be obedient πŸ™πŸ™ˆ.

So as I was about to sleep last night,  causally preaparing myself, then the Holy Spirit dropped it in my heart that there is someone whom is making a big mistake with their reactions/actions from being betrayed. I heard the words You need to tell them NOW!!!

(This means I might not be fully back to my writing duties).

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2 Corinthians 1:5 For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ.

What is a BETRAYAL???

Well according to wiki, “Betrayal is the breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust, or confidence by that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations.”

You see the loosing of trust and confidence hurts because the one whom betrayed you is never an enemy or stranger, it is usually the one whom you love.

The worst type of betrayal usually happens between a married couple. It is nearly impossible to come back from a marriage that suffered an act of betrayal. 

But you see, I believe it is either we decided to be honest with ourselves and totally agree to making it work or walk away and suffer the consequences. 

Because if we are not honest with ourselves, betrayal doesn’t only leave us heart broken, but it leaves a permanent blemish on our souls. It takes us to a dark and dingy place, a place filled with pain and hurts. 

You have to analysis yourself and see where you fell short and never let those things reapeat itself. The one who betrayed you is not the only one whom requires a change.

If you also get an opportunity to vent, take it and vent. Take time to be sure you still want in. 

Even Jesus took time praying in accepting if he still wanted in on going on the cross. 

Luke 22:41-42, And he was withdrawn from them about a stone’s cast, and kneeled down, and prayed, Saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done.

Though he felt betrayed by his own to die for sinners like you and I, he took it because he understood and valued the long term benefit of staying in. He had geniueinly forgiven knowing he would be betrayed.

I know it’s easier said than done, as long as the other party is also genuinely willing to work hard at it, we also have to try our hardest. As Christian’s we quote this verse all the time…

Matthew 19:26 But Jesus looked at them and said to them, β€œWith men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

We must believe it and act upon it and believe we can be happy again in that relationship. It is hard to do anything on our own, but we must trust in the strength of God to help us. We can genuinely trust again and in deed “WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE”.

I just want to encourage somebody today, there is still time to save the situation. Don’t be afraid. God’s got you.

Philippians 4:13 I am able to do all things through Him who strengthens me.

Love always πŸ˜‡πŸ™πŸ˜˜.

Cry Of The Broken by Hillsong

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BREAK UPS

Good morning,

BREAK UPS

by Dag Heward-Mills 

READ: Matthew 19:1-9

19 And it came to pass that when Jesus had finished these sayings, He departed from Galilee and came into the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.

2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there

3 The Pharisees also came unto Him, testing Him and saying unto Him, β€œIs it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?”

4 And He answered and said unto them, β€œHave ye not read, that He that made them at the beginning made them male and female,

5 and said, β€˜For this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh’?

6 Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

7 They said unto Him, β€œWhy did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement and to put her away?”

8 He said unto them, β€œMoses, because of the hardness of your hearts, suffered you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.

9 And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery; and whoso marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery”.

God places the responsibility of cleaving on the man. He leaves and cleaves (glues) to his wife.

Genesis 2:24, Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.


Divorce occurs when he is not able to cleave tightly enough to become inseparable. Marriage rests on the shoulders of the man, just the same way divorce also does. 
Whatever happens in the home is the man’s responsibility, although it may not be his fault. When man fell and God came to the garden, He first called out to Adam and placed the responsibility for eating the fruit at his feet. There were no questions for the woman.
Divorce brings about many complications. God, generally, does not like broken fellowship of any sort. The concept of a broken home or broken life hurts God. An unending hurt is inflicted (Proverbs 17:14). A bitter personality is created (Proverbs 18:14). There is a permanent break up of relationship/fellowship (Proverbs 18:19).
Separation is the termination of a commitment with emotional involvement. Divorce is legalized separation. Do not make a marriage vow if you do not intend to keep it (Ecclesiastes 5:4, 5).


Be blessed and let us continue in love. πŸ˜‡πŸ™πŸ˜˜

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Getting Married Doesn’t Solve All Your Problems!!!

Good morning,

I was talking to a young lady recently, and as she spoke I realised her thoughts on getting married was a bit off. 

We hear statements like these all the time…

* Jack you are approaching 40 and I am still cooking for you, go and marry
* Sandra you are nearly 35 you need to have a child, go and marry.

* He looks like a God fearing man.

* Get married because he/she will boost your social, financial and career life.

* Marry this one he/she seems humble
And so on…

* I just want a beautiful wedding.

* I will be complete and happy when I get married.

* If I don’t marry now, nobody will marry me.

Why do we always think marriage will solve our problems.

Take a look at what Jesus said (the Message Bible Version)

Matthew 19:11-12,

But Jesus said, “Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn’t for everyone. 

12 Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked – or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you’re capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it.

The verse said it requires certain aptitude (not that I knew what that meant until now lol)

“Aptitude means a natural attitude to do something”.

Marriage isn’t going to stop you feeling insecure. 

Many get married to even solve their financial issues, but then marry a woman beater, who will batter you emotionally, physiologically and mentally.

Some men even marry thinking it will stop their promiscuous ways.

But this is not true because at the beginning the scripture says “Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life”. Key word mature. And at the end of the verse it also says “But if you are capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it”.

This scripture is just saying it takes the grace of God and great maturity to get married and remain married. And if you are ready to grow and learn while in the marriage, then it will be blessed and fruitful.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE
let us not be obsessed with what we think life should be. I know you are thinking, “she’s married, so she doesn’t understand”.

I am saying it because I am married and I have seen a lot of marriages break down because they had married for the wrong reasons. The wrong decisions in get married by marrying the wrong people or at the wrong time, will cause you more pain than happiness.

I pray you will not be forced into the wrong decision out of desperation. I pray that your time will come and it will be beautiful. If your time hasn’t come, I pray God will give you peace to overcome this time of waiting. I pray that you will have an enjoyable marriage. I pray when you do get married, you will overcome every obstacle in the mighty name of Jesus.

DESIRE A MARRIAGE THAT IS BUILT TO LAST!

God bless and have a fulfilled and blessed week. πŸ˜‡πŸ˜‚πŸ˜˜.

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Girls like Boys…

Good morning,

Have you ever heard this statement before 

Girls like boys faaaaaar more than boys like girls“. By BDHM

So during a meeting recently my husband/pastor brought it up and the revelation he gave to justify this was amazing. So I though to share.

Remember this scripture when God said…

Genesis 3:16, Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

When God was distributing the punishments for our disobedience, one of the curses the for women was that “thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee”. 

So when you see that no matter how bitter, angry a woman is towards her husband or no matter what he has done to her, when you ask her, she will still tell you she loves him.

No matter how controlling the man is or how much she wants to leave, she just can’t understand why she still loves him.

THIS PART IS VERY IMPORTANT.

“Then he added that it means that women do not have a choice than to love the man. But men do have a choice in deciding wherther or not to love a woman.”

You can be married to and man and he doesn’t love you but just decided to be with you. 

These are partly reason why you find a man been able to say he loves two women at a time. He can make the choice.

Scripture also tells us that God’s desire is that a man should love his wife and in doing so his prayers will be answered. There are so many scriptures to back it up, here are a few we know…

Colossians 3:19, Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.

AND…

1 Peter 3:7, ikewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

The way to mitigate this curse is to be blessed to have a spirit filled man, then he will love you just as much as you love him and also only you. 

Pray that the love of God will fill your husband or husband to be’s heart so that he will love you truthfully.

Pray that he is a man that loves the lord then he will love you 

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

HE WILL HAVE NO CHOICE IN DECIDEING TO LOVE YOU.

So if you have heard that saying before, just like me it finally makes sense.

Be blessed and have a great week πŸ˜‡πŸ™πŸ˜Š

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A Good Friend or A Good Lover?ο»Ώ

Good morning, I was meant to have posted this yesterday, but I didn’t. Now I know I have to after a conversation I had with someone else again about this same topic yesterday evening. The ability to choose in remaining friends or becoming lovers is of great importance. Job 34:4 “Let us choose for ourselves… Continue reading A Good Friend or A Good Lover?ο»Ώ

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Voice of the Holy spirit

Good morning

2. Depend on the holy spirit for your marriage β€œand home.

Psalm 23:2, he maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me besides still waters.

With this point, I am going to briefly talk about how children and pride can affect a marriage.

I was talking to my husband last night, that when people see us, they think wow they are having life on a bed roses. You see it’s not always true, it takes constant work.

I have seen a lot of marriages around me, some are genuine and some you know it’s on the rocks. But the ability to carry it well is what paints the picture people around see.

Pride is the biggest problem in a marriage. With us, we talk about everything and anything no matter how silly it may seem or sound. We constantly keep allowing the Holy Spirit to minister to us and convict us individually of when we have done wrong.

It is hard to own up when you were so sure that you were right. It doesn’t make you foolish or the sucker, instead it should give you power.

That is what the Holy Spirit is there, for to ensure that we change our ways.

Take this expample of when Pharaoh finally realised his ways. As we know it could have only taken God to indeed turn the heart of a king.

Exodus 9:27, And Pharaoh sent, and called for Moses and Aaron, and said unto them, I have sinned this time: the Lord is righteous, and I and my people are wicked.

The ability to accept that you are unrighteousness and neither is your spouse will constantly encourage change and the ability to be remain humble.

Children is also another reason marriages have issues. When the couple do not agree on how one parent disciplines the child, or didn’t discipline the child and many more.

We have to remember that these children are going to leave us one day. We are justtheir guide into life and into the following of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Do not allow the devil to use your child against your marriage, when they are gone it will be left with just you two and you have to go back to the beginning, so that this blessing in this scripture will be your portion.

Proverbs 5:18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

As long as you keep teaching them in the way of the Lord together, just like you promised when took those vows on the dedication day, all we be well.

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.

Also don’t argue in front of the children, they will take sides depending on what they hear, don’t talk about your spouse to your children or criticise your spouse in front of your children.

You are creating a division in the family and corrupting the bond a family should hold.

Proverbs 11:29, 29 Whoever brings ruin on their family will inherit only wind, and the fool will be servant to the wise

I pray today that anyone going through any issues in their marriage or aspiring to be married will overcome pride in the name of Jesus. 

The devil will not use your children against you, in the name of Jesus. 

Receive healing grace, mercy and wisdom in that marriage or in that relationship aspiring to marriage in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen…

Be blessed πŸ˜‡πŸ™πŸ˜˜

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