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Who Qualifies To Grief

Good morning,

There is one sensitive topic that people find especially hard to talk about to anybody. I’ve been meaning to talk about this topic for a while and I finally have the go ahead. 

Lead me oh Lord as I write. Let it bring healing to someone in Jesus name…Amen.

Here it goes

Lady A, Happily Married, pregnant at 10 weeks

Lady B, 17 years of ages pregnant at 14 weeks

Lady C, In an abusive relationship with one child aged 10 and 19 weeks pregnant

Lady D, 26 raped pregnant at 6 weeks

Lady E, Not Married pregnant at 38 weeks

Lady F, Married pregnant with twins at 13 weeks

Lady G, Has a one night stand ends up being 25 weeks pregnant

Lady H, Aged 19, raped  by a drunken man and 12 weeks pregnant

What they all have in common is that they were all pregnant and have all lost their babies at the weeks listed.

I once heard BDHM say that at a point in life a woman experiences either deliberate or non deliberate abortion. But they are both scientifically called abortion. It just at this age people have specifically attributed the word abortion for just deliberate termination.

The word ABORT means

a. To terminate (a contract, a baby, a relationship, a mission)

b. To miscarry (justice, To go astray or be lost in transit, To fail to attain an intended goal, as a plan or project)

An abortion which occurs spontaneously is also known as a miscarriage. An induced abortion is the ending of pregnancy by removing a fetus or embryo before it can survive outside the uterus. Which are done medically or surgically.

The conventional age range for women between, 15 – 44 years experience deliberate or non deliberate abortion. I really wished I found a concrete figure for you but if ranges between 75-95% of women experiences this at a point in their life time.

God knows us all before we were conceived and after being a Christian for the last 10 years, I will beg any one not to go through a deliberate termination, due to the fact that 

Jeremiah 1:5, Before I formed you in the womb I knew you. Before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations”

Also in 

Exodus 23:7, Keep far from a false charge, and do not kill the innocent and righteous, for I will not acquit the wicked

My point is whether deliberate or not as long as the person is repentant of the act, God has forgiven them and they also have the rights to grief and be forgiven and given the chance to be healed. This is something that can scar a woman of life, if she doesn’t have the right help. Addressing it has become taboo for most especially the African/Asian community. Our young women are suffering because mothers are not willing to share their own experiences.

Having a child out of wedlock is certainly not biblical, but the person is more scared of the shame it will bring to their family, that they would rather face Gods judgment. Am not asking for us to accept it as I also don’t, but let us be prepared to deal with the consequences so that we don’t leave them with just one option.

We kick them out of the house, extradite them, sometimes even into the hands of the abusive father to be and so on.

If you never want to hear or know that you daughter experiences this, then teach her now about sexual health.

The situation in which the lady was raped, she actually wanted to keep the baby, I remember this one so well, because she couldn’t put her faith behind her, but due to probably a lot of stress she miscarried, blamed herself for being raped and also for loosing the baby. She still didn’t tell her parents till date. The other rape victim felt so disgusted as soon as she found out she nearly committed suicide and decided she had to terminate.

Most women either knowingly or unknowingly go through a termination mostly blame themselves for the results. 

Let’s be sensitive to people, first of all it is not our business if they are not ready to talk about it. As Christian women/mothers teach them why they shouldn’t do it, don’t condemn them, call them names.

To those who have gone through it every one has different healing process. Have faith and believe it happened for a good reason. God knows best, he wouldn’t allow even the devil to take away from you if He didn’t believe it will hurt you later in life.

It’s just the devil wants to create the feeling that God has forsaken you, He hasn’t. 

Some say then why did He let me carry the child anyway. I can’t answer that question. Seek Gods face for healing of the heart.

I think this has been my longest post. I could go on, but really don’t want to make it any longer.

Psalms 46:10, 10 He says, “Be still, and know that I am God

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