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It Is No Longer Sin…

Good morning,

Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. 16 Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? 17 Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. 18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love… 

Proverbs 5:15-19

Yesterday while I was writing I felt it deeply in my heart to talk about this next topic.

It Is No Longer Sin,…because you are now married.

Now a days a lot of young married couples age group 25-35 years, shy away from the conversation of sex. 

I really don’t understand why!😳🤔

When we were in the world we freely spoke about it and all sorts. Now that we are married and in Christ it’s a taboo and sacred.

2 Corinthians 5:17, Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new

Yes no one is asking you to take a microphone and tell everyone what you did last night, but not talking about it will deprive you of the ability to make the right changes in your marital sex life.

A healthy marital sex life comes in seasons.

1.) The newly wed stage 

2.) The pregnancy stage 

3.) The more than one child stage.

4.) The kids have all left home stage.

And am just at at number 3 😅😅😅😅.

At the newly wed stage you can find especially in the situation where one party or both parties are sex novice, it might take a while to get to know each other. You have to be able to talk freely about it, it’s the only way to work it out and learn about each other’s body, to know what pleases and displeases you.

This stage is usually the point where most married couples have the highest frequency of a healthy sex life.

If you had been the type who was having sexual relations while courting and are now married (if so, now you’re married, repent and ask God for forgiveness of the times out of wedlock), remember stolen waters are sweet,

Proverbs 9:17, Stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.

So when you get married the devourer now gets the opportunity to try and put asunder, and one of the biggest parts of your marriage he attacks is your sexual life.

Think about it when you did out of wedlock, it was so much often, there was excitement and you were very experimental, the enemy was cool with that because you were in sin and he had you where he wanted you.

Now after you made the vows in the house of the Lord, you are now under the covering Christ and blessings that comes with being married,

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

This is the time you now have the full license and you are not enjoying what God created for your benefit. Sex is Holy and beautiful in marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:5, Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

The devil wants to do everything in his power to attack you, and yes SEX is a window the devil can use to ruin your marriage.

I once heard, that a married couple who have issues, but are still able to get naked and have sex, stand a better chance of solving their marital problems.

Let’s talk about it. If you need to, feel free to ask someone or me anything and I promise to be real!

This chart below was taken from the book Model Marriage by BDHM, alongside the six months counselling, together was fantastic and changed my life on marital issues.

Develop a healthy marital sex life.


Be blessed till next time, God willing



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