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The Finale:- Why I Got Married

Good morning,

I missed one reason why one of the ladies would like to get married.

(Because I want a us to be a “proper” family. I want to be married before i have anymore children. And I love him even though i am not sure some days).

Hmmm deep right!

Here are some ladies view on 

Why They Got Married!

1.) Because he brings out the best in me. Then again, then also brings out the worst, but that’s what you get when you choose to spend the rest of your life with your best friend!

2.) Why did I get married? Hmm…

There are so many reasons 
Growing up, I always dreamt of the man I would marry. 
Would he be tall? Would he be funny? Would he love me as much I love him?

It was later on in life, that I came to understand that I should rather be praying for a man who loves God. Why??? Because I learnt that a man who loves God is all that was required. 

So why did I get married ??? Was I ready??

With the help of Scriptures, counsel from leaders of my church and lots and lots of prayer I knew I was ready.

After all I had met a man who loved God, tall, funny and loved me as much as I loved him. 😊😊😊

3.) I got married because he’s my better half and we do connect.

4.) Errmmm i don’t know…. i think i didn’t want to carry on fornicating and end up in hell… i guess.

5.) U this girl…Because l wanted sex everyday. lol hahahahah. 😘love u

6.) Powerful…. after being married for long . The question you should ask is ‘why did I stay married’??? … well reason for marriage changes as time goes by and as you experience the storms and success of life … after careful evaluation . I can conclude that I married for 3 ‘M’s … My MASTERJesus (to avoid lust and fornication, honouring God) … My MATE (he is a great companion and friend) My MISSION( marriage has enhanced my ministry that’s why the devil seeks separation of godly union) Hope it helps.


Well well well, as you can see there is no perfect or one answer, similar but still different.

Now Why I Actually Got Married!

After accepting the fact that I had to get married to avoid sin, I need a covering, it will help to keep my eyes on ministry, to have kids, blah blah blah blah, i still wasn’t sure Marriage was for me. 

I remembered my spiritual father saying, if you find a man who loves you and is sincerely saved at heart and has a spiritual father he listens to, he is the ideal candidate.

This is because if he is sincerely saved at heart and listens to his spiritual father, he will find it hard to offend you and even if he does anything bad, he can be spoken to and chastised with the word of God. 

2 Timothy 3:16, All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness;

I held it tightly in the palm of my hands, and that was what affirmed it for me, that I should get married.

The more I thought, the more I felt marriage is like being naked in public, It brings shame and both of us are the clothing we have to wear to make sure we are not put to shame in the marriage.

Guess I was ready! Now knowing I was ready to marry him was the second part.

When we became official beloveds, we aired out exactly what we wanted in marriage, after all the spiritual stuff was established, LOYALTY, HONESTY and FAITHFULNESS was the first on our list.

Around that time was when I had joined my church and LOYALTY was a topic constantly preached.

That thought me that, having someone that is loyal is imperative to the long lasting of any relationship.

1 Corinthians 4:2, Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.

I accepted to marry him in particular because when we had obstacles in the beginning of our relationship, (at this point I hadn’t even felt any form of love apart from this is a man am getting to know and if I like him enough and he ask me to marry him then I will), he fought for me. That showed his faithfulness and loyalty.

(Look out for these things in every situation you encounter in the courting stage. How the gentleman responds or handles any situation and obstacles that comes along the way).

That restored my faith in men and marriage and also knowing that as long as both parties genuinely  want the marriage to work, nothing can stop them.

If you noticed, I didn’t mention love, companionship, looks, wealth as my reasons and all the other types of sentiments.

Unfortunately am not very sentimental. I have always been confident in myself, when I found God it even grew more and still growing. Which made is clear that having a husband wasn’t the reason I was going to be more loved (though it’s great to be loved), or more happy or fulfilled in my life.

It was more of the fact that he was spiritual sound himself ✅, and has a spiritual father who can speak into his life ✅. That was the same reason I was sure I could get married and in particularly Him.

It’s good to have spiritual fathers. 

A little advice!

BDHW said “I believe that the mind is one of the most wonderful gifts that God has given to every man. It is a gift that you are expected to use.

When deciding whether to marry someone or not, you must first use your mind. Ask yourself, “What is the background (family, education, etc.) of this person? How old is he or she? What language does he or she speak?”

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Be blessed.



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