Thank God for another day to be alive and live right.
Something on my mind, have you ever asked yourself, at what point do I realise this is not right?
I was told a story about a young lady who had been in a relationship for sometime, from day one knew the man in question was constantly cheating. She thought marriage would fix things, he ended up even having a child in their first year of marriage and had refused to allow her to get pregnant.
Another one was with the man in question for 6 years before marriage and he said “I don’t want kids and will never change my mind”. Again she thought marriage will fix him and he will change his mind. He refused intercourse at a point and left without notice after 2 years.
I myself was with an insecure, jealous and possessive man, things got real bad and when I gave my life to Christ and wanted celibacy he accused me of all sorts of sexual immoralities, my past and played on my emotions. Oh my it nearly worked. Thank God for his grace.
You see ladies, men rarely change their minds or behaviours after marriage. Only God can bring such change. Don’t think marrying him will fix the problem.
Proverbs 21.1, The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will.
Have some self worth, stop playing the victim card. If you are in such situation dating or married, seek Gods face to give you grace to handle the situation.
No one deserves to be unhappy in this life, but also don’t make yourself unhappy.
Pay attention while dating, don’t just be completely loved up. Take time to study the man because that is exactly what he is doing.
He gets to learn your strengths and weaknesses and that is why if he is a dangerous one he will use it against you every time, make you loose confidence in yourself until it’s completely gone.
He can bring you to a place of no return and when you final get courage to do something about it, you blame him and you’ve forgotten that the signs were there but you didn’t pay attention or you ignored it.
Let’s learn and stop going round in the same circles, blaming the man for all our wrong choices. Marriage is for a life time. Be wise in choosing, and with a lot of prayer and supplication.
Philippians 4:6, Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
God has a better plan for you, ask him to open your eye to see and pay attention in every area of decision making, because as the saying goes…
“Once beaten twice shy”
Ephesians 1:17, The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that ye may know what is the hope of his calling, and what the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints.
Choose ye this day that which you desire,
SCHOOL OF EXPERIENCE v SCHOOL OF WISDOM