Good morning to you,
As a Choleric/Melancholic am not easily liked by other women. Apparently “”I ooze confidence, speak my mind and of a strong personality”” 🙈🙈🙈🙈. The older I get the more I have allowed myself to be Spirit lead and developed other traits to enable me to soften up and become approachable.
Woman you are very beautiful💁, intelligent, educated 🎓, stylish👠👗, and so on. But what does all that mean if you can’t have people around you, they find it hard to come close to you, you are unapproachable, what you think is final. You have become an uncontrolled beautiful, smart, stylish lady.
I once heard “Things that are not expensive are not listed among precious things”. There is nothing wrong in priding yourself as a beautiful, intelligent, career chasing, perfect life planner and so on woman. But don’t allow it to get to your head and make you unapproachable. These things don’t guarantee you a perfect life.
Abigail was so approachable that her servant found it easy to tell her what Nabal had done. Can people trust you and know that you won’t overreact and deal with issues amicably. When Nabal died, David called for her and she later became a queen as a result of her attitude and humility.
1 Samuel 25:1-44, “14, One of the servants told Abigail, Nabal’s wife, “David sent messengers from the wilderness to give our master his greetings, but he hurled insults at them”.
Being unapproachable can cause you to chase the right husband away. You are too smart, you are of high class, you have a good job, more money, better career prospects. Remember women fall in love easily, and are full of sentiments, but men love from your acts.
Hubby said he fell in love with me because when we were friends and he visited me for the first time, I received and served him in a certain way. He felt comfortable whether or not I was going to receive his advances. As I was initially not interested, but I didn’t shut him down, I was nice about it.
“Every man needs respect to remain in love”
When ladies are put in a place of authority, they can also become unapproachable, this is caused by feeling the need to behave in a certain way in order to be respected. But guess what I might call you boss but have no respect for you. This is a spirit of pride.
Esther 1:10-22, 19, it please the king, let there go a royal commandment from him, and let it be written among the laws of the Persians and the Medes, that it be not altered, That Vashti come no more before king Ahasuerus; and let the king give her royal estate unto another that is better than she.
Even a person in authority needs friends. Be kind to fellow women around you so they can look up to you and you can be an example of the Titus 2 woman.
Titus 2:3-5, The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Ladies let us get off our high horses 🐴 , I know we are beautiful, intelligent, smart and all, but try and become approachable so people can find it easy to come close, and also to encourage the right man to approach.